Hello and welcome.  I have not had breast cancer myself but wanted to suggest you look up the thread called "The good and the bad" which is an irreverent thread about posters breast cancer.   It is now quite a long thread and I attach a link if you would like to take a look.  And I am sure other posters will contact you.  Best wishes.  Annie

www.cancerresearchuk.org/.../the-good-and-the-bad

Hi there and welcome ...

Your in a great place here... this is where I came in those early scary days ... l was most scared of the unknown ... I had a grade 3 her 2 neg, oestrogen positive breast cancer ...

Having a good will to take it on, will get you through this journey ... and you sound like you've still held on to your sense of humour ... l did, l refused to let cancer take that away ...

But please be prepaired to have low days too .. we all get them ... but cancer wants us all to fall down, and stay down .. the same as it wants our loved ones to do too ... don't hold feelings in, they need to to come out ... but once out and you get your head in the right place... then stand back up... get a lovely pair of vertual pink boxing gloves on ... get in the boxing ring with us .. and together wer all going to kick cancers butt ...

There's a wonderful thread on here called @the good and the bad ...... it was started by an amazing lass [@Sandra123]‍ .... it's her journey but lots of us pop on and come and go ... you'll get an honest account of cancer journey ... they talk about all sorts, not just cancer ... they all have an amazing sense of humour too .. so go to their last page and introduce yourself ... you'll be amazed at the support ... we were all new at one point ... being brave is being scared witless but still doing what you have to... that's brave ...

So welcome ... and you can say / ask / vent or laugh here ... anything goes ... 

Big vertual hug .... Chrissie

Hello rottyjennie,

welcome to the club no one wants to join. I too was invasive ductal carcinoma......lumpectomy all done and dusted, now currently going through chemo, then rads....

Ive kind of written this year off, as a control freak I've found this whole thing rather irritating! I am completely in the hands of my oncologist, I have surrendered....and as soon as I came to that decision I found relief.....phew! Now someone else can take control and get me all well again....

chemo is no walk in the park ( its generously given me piles) but it is doable.....I manage by taking it a day at a time, I don't pre plan anything in case I'm not up to it...

i also get through it with having a dark sense of humour ( my coping mechanism) 

im always bobbing in and out of this forum and am more than happy to chat....it's good to share...xxxxx

Hi Rottyjenny,

Welcome to our community, although I'm sorry for the reason you've had to join. As someone who has had 2 bouts of breast cancer in the past 9 years my advice is,  just you stay positive for yourelf and family and friends will follow your example.

I have had a lumpectomy and a double mastectomy and, both are quite 'doable' and much easier to have than I expected them to be. I cannot say anything about chemo or radiotherapy, as I haven't had either.

Like you, I am a control freak and found the days up to my diagnosis awful, because I had no control over what was hapening. Once I got my full diagnosis and, could move forward, I began to get my autonomy back and found it easier to cope with all that was happening.

I am sure that things will improve for you with time. We are always here for you.

Kind regards,

Jolamine xx

Dear Anniliz, Chriss, Marlyn and Jolamine

Thank you all so much for replying, it's such a comfort to hear from other women in the same situation although like Marlyn says it's the club none of us want to be part of! Thank you too for your suggestions which I will definitely take up, and I will also share with my family. I know there will be difficult times ahead but it really will help to know this forum is here so thanks again,

Jennie xx