One year on!!

I`m new to this forum so here goes ......

I bet many of you can`t remember what you were doing on Sunday 23rd April 2017?

On 28th May 2017 I was diagnosised with bowel cancer. What a shock!!. So after numerous CT and PET scans, the wait is endless. The waiting is torture and you finally get the result, you just there is a BUT coming when the consulting room if full of healthcare professionals. `We have some areas on your lung` they say, `we need some scans and biopsy` they say, `have you any questions` they say. Erm No! Hell yes! But you open your mouth and no words come out. Then you start having selective hearing... surgery, left lung lobectomy, anterior resection, chemotherapy, all the cancers are primary... what on earth does that all mean! 

On July 4th 2017 my husband was diagnosised with terminal lung cancer. Our life is now hospital appointments, scans, blood tests, surgery, chemotherapy and radiotherapy. After six short months my husband passed away. He was 61.

One year on I have finally got the all clear. And now one year from his death I am struggling,  so angry that cancer has taken away my life, my husband and my children`s father. I dont know how to move on any support would be very much apprepiciated. Thank you.

Oh and Sunday 23rd April 2017 I ran London Marathon!

 

 

 

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    Hi BevAtt,

    It sounds as if you are doing your best to become involved again. It is all too easy to withdraw from your friends and lifestyle when you are looking after someone with cancer or are indeed going through surgery and treatment yourself.

    I hope that you enjoy your dancing and yoga. Both of these are a good way to make new friends too, so with time, should increase your social life.

    Kind regards,

    Jolamine xx

  • Hi Bevatt

    How's the dancing? It's great exercise and the best thing is that you are getting out and socialising! Excellent. 

    Big hug x

  • Hi Harvell

    The dancing is great doing the Charleston and tap. Both very energetic but good fun!! 

    Didnt realise I had two left feet!! Lol!! 

    Best wishes Bev x

  • Hi BevAtt

    It sounds like you are feeling much better in yourself. I play golf (badly) and my twice weekly catch ups with my friends plus the exercise keep me sane. There is life outside work and definitely after a cancer diagnosis. Our much loved and missed family and friends would be cheering us on! 

    Keep dancing!

    C x

  • Hi Bev

    I hope you’re doing well....sounds like you have quite a busy social diary going on there - and good for you! 

    I love Charleston dancing...I go on YouTube and watch some of the videos the dancers upload. It is such a great style and I can imagine it being very energetic! 

    Sadly, no further forward with the running at this time....we were battered by storm Eric this weekend and so I figured I’d leave it (excuses, excuses!) then! I thought hang on, maybe i’ll start shedding some excess weight first and so will start tomorrow (too late now, might as well finish those hot cross buns off) so it’s easier to get around :D 

    Will keep you updated - glad you are having fun and thank you for inspiring us all with your spirit and inspiration xx