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Stage 2 Breast cancer now stage 3 - feeling panicky

Feedthegoodwolf
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Hello all, 

This is my first post.  I was diagnosed first with Stage 2 cancer - breast and lymph, now post op they have discovered that all 28 lymph have cancer present - grade 3 cells.  I feel like i've been hit with a death sentence hammer even though i know that plenty of Stage 3/4 people survive i feel i need to talk to some of them to believe it.  Anyone out there?  Any advice on how to cope?

The type i have is HER2 negative and ER/PR+ve

I will have a PET scan now next week, because although the CAT scan didnt show anything they are clearly worried about the load.  I know if they find something that will take me to stage 4 and i genuinely don't know how to navigate through that.  I have many wonderful friends and a partner but no one who has been through anything like this - apart from one friend and she very sadly died.   Anyway, i'm sure i will calm down naturally but it would be lovely to hear from anyone out there with advice or positive experiences..  thanks! 

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    Hello, sorry you find yourself on here. I was diagnosed just before Christmas...stage 2 invasive ductal carcinoma...I am also her2 neg  and ER + ve PR + ve ( what a mouthful)

    There are many ladies here who are in the same boat as you, I am sure they will pop along at some point to reassure you....

    Its as scary as it gets isn't it? Just surreal, but this forum has saved my sanity, the calming voice of reason when I have been going silly with panic....

    As you navigate the forum..look for the thread " the good and the bad" the ladies are just fabulous....perhaps put your post on there, I can guarantee you will get loads of feed back....

    Take care....xxxxx

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    thank you so much, i'll have a gander now - good luck with it all - yes i realise that you can never ever expect a clear path. 

     

    love

    Gaby

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    I will keep a look out for you....xxx

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    Hi,

    Welcome to our forum, although I'm sorry for the reason you're here.

    There are many ladies on this site with grade 3 and 4 breast cancers and, a number who have lived way past the prognosis that they've been given, so please try not to panic.

    I lost my mum to breast cancer 21 years ago. I have also had 2 bouts of breast cancer myself in the past 9 years. There is just no comparison between the treatment that we have both experienced. Treatments have come along leaps and bounds since mum's day.

    Try to keep yourself as busy as you can to distract yourself from the wait and, try not to consult 'Dr Google', as much of his information is out of date or poorly researched.

    Please keep us updated on your PET scan results. We are always here for you.

    Keeping my fingers crossed for you.

    Kind regards,

    Jolamine xx

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    Thanks so much, yes you can’t really stay in a state of panic, it comes in waves that get smaller. I shall settle down to more waiting and distract myself as much as possible. 

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