Oh dear, it sounds as if you are all  having a hard time. Can you get any care in place to help with your mum? This would take a lot of stress off both of your shoulders. It sounds as if she should qualify for some help with this. 

How far on are you with your radiotherapy and how many more sessions do you still have to undertake?

It is pretty exhausting having to attend for treatment so regularly. Have you tried to discuss with your partner how you both feel about all that is happening? Perhaps an open discussion between the 2 of you might help, but always be aware that it could do the opposite too. By clearing the air between you and working together for your daughter, you might be able to reach a solution for the duration of your radiation therapy, where he might bring her to school. He might find it easier to cope with long-term plans, rather than being given tasks to do at the last minute?

I hope that you manage to make some headway. Please remember that we are always here for you.

Kind regards,

Jolamine xx

Dear rmrachiee4,

 sorry for my late reply, my post is from 3 years ago. I'm so sorry that your going through this and have an unsupportive partner. You really don't need this! My situation was slightly different as my son had cancer and i refused to fight two battles, I was very scared how i woulf manage financially and physically but knew if d I'd cope better mentally, I asked my partner to B leave and once hed gone I had a massive sense of calm which I didn't expect, my sole  purpose was to there every step of the way for my son and to keep working. The treatment emotionally and Physically drains everyone involved. My partner had been great since we split up and has helped a lot. I think be felt out of control with the situation. It's different for you as you also have your child and mum to think about. Definitely Ask for help. I think an honest talk will help. I hope you can work together, when my partner was still here I got a friend to clean the house when we're at the hospital. I also had to get a dog walker as he wouldn't help at all, I just tried to find solutions one at a time

Hi Carebear,

It's great to hear from you. How are you coping now?

Kind regards,

Jolamine xx

I'm coping thank you. It was my birthday on Friday and My son had given me a card before be died. I flew out to New York to open it. It was a lovely card and I've kept myself distracted whilst here. I fly home tonight. How are you? X

Do you really deserve that,you deserve love and care,not ignored and no empathy.its up to you but you don't need someone selfish!!

Hi,

this is heartbreaking to read because right now my husband is being very supportive while we await biopsy results.

he does NOT deserve you, or to be in a relationship. You need to ask yourself what he is bringing to your life and it seems like he's not only not enriching it, but actually bringing you down.

Do you have close friends and family? I really feel you would be better off without him. 

im so sorry 

My post is three years old. I split with my partner nearly three years ago and am much happier. Once we split up he became very helpful but we are not together 

I need to find the strenght to do this... as I feel so unloved right now....

I found a lump two months back and was fairly sure it was something sinister, my partner wouldn't engage with me pre-diagnosis as his father was very sick and then he passed away. He wouldn't talk to me about it then and he won't talk to me about it now. Before I had my results he just asked me to wait unitl his fathers funeral was out of the way. After that we were apart for another week and nothing was discussed, then the news came. I expected the news that I got, my mum didn't want to believe it as I am 32 so she was in shock. My partner couldn't believe it and I had to tell him on the phone as he was still away. Since then he has barely spoken to me about it and all we do is argue on the phone. I can not stay here if he will not engage with me or support me. I feel worthless, like these past four and a half years were just one big lie. If I leave, I need to find somewhere to live. I will leave my dog. I will go through a break up. I guess what doesn't kill you makes you stronger.

Hi Qwest,

Sorry you are having a tough time right now. I don't know what to advise, but it occurred to me that having just lost his father your partner may still be in shock and unable to process news of your cancer too. Moving out may therefore be a little hasty. Can I suggest you both get some appropriate psychological support – your partner may need bereavement counselling and I think you yourself should seek support from somewhere like Maggie's https://www.maggies.org in order to help you process all this. They have drop-in centres where you can just chat things over as well as a helpline. It's just it could be something other than your partner not caring because of the very recent bereavement. Also, I think you too are in shock.