Hi, my name is Tammy and this is my story so far. In March 2018, my wonderful Dad was diagnosed with non invasive bladder cancer. He went through the BCG treatment and we thought he was cancer free. In October after another scan, the cancer had come back with avengence and had now sneaked through the bladder wall so he went for the option of bladder removal. During pre ops they discovered that his kidney function was down to 18% so he had to have kidney drains put in (both kideneys0 but we were hopeful that when they took the bladder away, they would pop the kidney piped inside hime in the form of a stoma. During surgery after the surgon had un lodged one side of the bladder, he noticted that theer was evidence that it had gone through the pelvic wall so aborted the operation. They have now told my Dad he has terminal cancer and they wont remove the bladder as its to risky.  He now still has the 2 kidney dairns coming out of his back, he has fone from 15 stone to 12 stone in 3 weeks, he is in a mess and no one will help him and Im so lost. I dont know what to do next, my heart is breaking. I want then to fix my dad but they wont. Im sorry if Im waffleing im just so sad as I cant live without my dad.