Hi

I just noticed your post and wanted to say hello as nobody had responded.  

Have you got family or friends you can talk to? 

Have you been in touch with Macmillan? 

Please take any help you can get and keep talking.  

I have just got over cervical cancer. When I first heard cancer word I was convinced my life was over.

You are not alone. There are so many people on here willing to listen. There is no right or wrong way with dealing with this.  

Please feel free to contact me anytime and hope your wife and yourself get all the help and support needed to get you through this.

Hi Nuff

Sorry you find yourself here xx 

Just wanted to drop by and say hello and to wish you strength and courage to take on this weekend. 

This is a really supportive website - lots of us know what you’re going through as we’ve been their ourselves. 

How is everything today? xx 

Hi Nuffsaid,

Welcome to our forum, although I'm sorry that you have had to join us here.

I know just how awful it is trying to cope with such a diagnosis. I have lost both of my parents to cancer and have had 2 bouts myself in the past 8 years. All you can really do is to be there to support your wife. Talk to one another and don't leave anythig unsaid. Keep an eye on her pain levels and, if she needs her meds topped up ask the nurse or doctor for stronger medication if necessary.

Is your wife at home or in hospital? Do you have any family or friends who can offer you some support? I do hope so, because you do need someone as well as your wife to confide in.

Please keep in touch. We are always here for you.

Thinking of and praying for both of you.

Kind regards,

Jolamine

Thanks Starcatone

Thanks Jolamine

Hope you’re both doing OK, Nuffsaid xx 

Sorry Jolamine for not replying sooner but I am finding this very difficult.

We are living in Switzerland at the moment and this is where my wife is having treatment. I don't really have the kind of friends that I could talk to about this.

The hospital is providing a counsellor tomorrow but I find it very difficult to talk to a stranger without getting over emotional. 

Regards

Hi Nuffsaid,

Are you from the UK originally? Many find that being away from home can be even more of a problem than usual. You have rightly mentioned that you don't have the kind of frieds that you could talk to about this, which is a great pity, as it does help enormously to have someone to talk openly to.

Another obstacle for many is the poor quality of medical care available outwith the UK. Fortunately, you should be in the right place to receive the optimum care.

You have never told us what type of cancer your wife has. Are they able to give her chemo to slow down the rate of spread, or is this out of the question?

I am glad to hear that you are seeing a counsellor tomorrow and hope that you find this helpful. I know that it's not easy. A lot will depend upon what type of person you see, but do your best to let him/her know exactly how you feel. How is your wife coping with her diagnosis?

How I wish there was something I could do to help you, but sadly we both know that there isn't. Do please let me know how you get on tomorrow.

Kind regards,

Jolamine xx

Hi,

Yes we are from the UK. My wife has lung cancer which has spread to other organs.

The hospital that she's in is really good, staff incredibly friendly. I've got no problems in that area.

I guess it's just the emotion of it all. Trying to remain cheerful and then saying goodbye every evening, is really hard.

Regards