Dear Pixie

I have also edited my post. 

I have changed my initial post following this response.  Yes, as you say, everyone is affected when someone has cancer.  I would like to say that in this instance my friend does not internalise his feelings, fears or thoughts. I am his main listener. If I came across as a bit selfish that was not my intention but I have no-one to listen to me so am doing the internalising. Thanks for making me feel as though this was the wrong place to get him some answers 

Sorry, Pixie. 

I think I am sensitive to cancer sufferers because of my experience with my Mum. I appreciate that this may have driven my thoughts and feelings around your post. I apologise for any upset caused. 

This is certainly the right place to come to for support. It has certainly helps me. I hope you do stick around - I have also edited my post x

Hi pixieindevon,

I read your original post but didn't reply then as I have no knowledge of prostate cancer. Just wanted to say I didn't see anything "wrong" with the post whatsoever. 

This is a tricky situation. I guess once your friend gets acclimatized to the treatment things may settle down. Females learn to deal with hormone changes and most adapt their behavior accordingly. Hopefully his doctor could offer advice. If he realizes how much his moodswings affects you he may be able to change how he vents his feelings. For example, go to a football match and yell his head off in the crowd, or take a brisk walk if he's fit enough. And of course the diagnosis is a hard things to handle.

It worries me that you are scared by his behavior at times. You'll have your reasons for sharing a house but please look out for yourself.

The Samaritans are wonderful listeners, you can ring them any time, or email if you prefer. They are there for anybody with worries, not solely suicidal people. You need support, somewhere to express yourself. 

Take care.

regards, gamechanger