Hello Ali86.  I am sorry tthat you are still suffering so much. There are many people on here who have lost their mums to cancer.  It is some years ago since my own mum died but I know how nothing prepares you for it - even though we know it is likely that our parents will die before us it is not something with which we can cope.  I hope you will find some recent posts from people who are suffering like yourself having lost their mums (and dads) to cancer.  Also that some will see your post and contact you.  I found that talking aloud to my mum (after she died) and looking at photos and other items was helpful in the short term; but you must go with anything that helps you; there are no rights and wrongs in this situation.  Annie

Hello Lovely,

i am new to this page and was looking for help myself as my dad is now very poorly. 

I am so sorry to hear about your mum. No time is the right time to lose someone so close and no one can put a timeframe on grief. 

It might sound cliched but have you spoken to anyone to talk it through properly, there is bereavement counselling that might help? 

I think life these days is all consuming and people are busy and may not see you’re struggling- have you told any friends you’re struggling? They may think you’re coping? 

I hope you find some comfort soon xxx

Thank you Annieliz, that that is very helpful. I will take your advice hopefully it will help!

A xx

Thank you Carrie_Ev for your advice. 

Im sorry to hear about your Dad. 

I am doing conselling at the minute but find it not very helpful regarding grieving etc. 

Thank you!! 

A xx