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Floosy
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Hi All, 

I was diagnosed with breast cancer on 23 April after finding a lump in my left breast towards the end of March.  I had an MRI scan on 25 April and today was told there are additional suspicious areas in both breasts and I have to go back in tomorrow for more biopsies.  

Feeling very scared now.  When it was a single lump and I thought it hadn't spread, I managed to remain fairly positive, but now I am worried that if it has gone from one breast to another, then it must be within my lymph system and could have spread to other places too. 

I have a lovely nurse assigned to me who will be there tomorrow and will let me know when the results come in. She has also told me that I am HER2 negative and oestrogen and progesterone positive, which is good news. These people who look after those of us with cancer are amazing.

I just want to sit and wail at the moment, but this instead I am trying to be really positive and cheerful so my husband and family are not upset.  I have seen how supportive people on this forum are and hope I can also help people by sharing my experince.

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    Hi there floosy ...

    Well your deffinatly not alone, there's a fare few of us on here ... I'd had my lump for 2 years before I got it diagnosed...  and mine was a grade 3 her 2 ... l cried curled up in spare room for 24 hours ... didn't want to see or talk to anyone ... thought my time was up ... but after getting all that emotion out, I felt ready to take it head on ... my daughter in law, said to us, no more what ifs ... no more looking too far ahead ... we will take every day and every problem one at a time ... and well do it together ... l wish everyone had someone like her ...

    So there's no easy way round ... you will get emotional, everyone does, esp in those early days ... but don't be afraid to admit your all scared ... share tears together ... talk about fears ... lots of hugs .. and if you can get your head around it ... and get your vertual boxing gloves on, and get in the ring , look cancer in the eye, and throw punch for punch...  you can do this ...

    Cancer wants us to crumble, lay down and never get up ... we've been as scared as you are now ... and we still get highs and lows ... but we are all in that same boxing ring with you... and think we got it on the ropes ... wer all at different stages and different treatments .. but here I am 10 months post mastectomy and still here, writing to you ... sure others will drop by to offer support too ... Chrissie x

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    Hi and welcome

    Listen to Chrissie. She knows what she’s talking about. She and others on here have got me through some worrying times. I have endometrial cancer and I am going for hysterectomy on Monday. I don’t know a lot about breast cancer but there are a llot of people on here who do.  However we all go through the same emotions, have ups and downs, highs and lows so everyone understands.

    There are always peopl here who know what it’s like and will listen whether you want cry, rant or just talk.

    I am stretching out my virtual hand to squeeze yours. :-)

     

    Sundial

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    Hi floosy 

    Like Chrissie I'm also a breast lady part way through my treat me ts having been diagnosed on 15th March. 

    The way you are feeling is perfectly normal...weve all been there. It's weird but you do settle into it. I found that the more I knew the better I coped. But not everyone wants to know everything so go at your pace. 

    We are all here if you need or want us and Chrissie jbains jolamine sandra123 warrior queen are just a few who have supported me. We are a force to be reckoned with.

    Take care and let us know if you need anything at all.

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    Hi Floosy,

    A very warm welcome to Cancer Chat, even though I’m sure that you would rather be anywhere else but here.

    I am so sorry to hear that you have to return tomorrow for more biopsies and hope that all goes well. Don't worry about the copious tears - let them flow. They are a great way of de-stressing and, they will lessen as time passes.

    You have heard from Cornishpastie, nervously waiting for her radiotherapy after having surgery recently and, from Chrisssie, who had BC for 2 years before she was diagnosed last summer. I thought that you might appreciate hearing from someone who is lucky enough to still be here 8 years after my initial diagnosis. I have had 2 bouts of primary BC, the first 8 years ago and the second 7 years ago. The first time I had a lumpectomy followed by Tamoxifen. The second time I had a double mastectomy followed by Letrozole for 6 years. I only stopped taking this last July. I am no longer having any treatment, but I still have an annual check-up to make sure that there are no ‘nasties’ lurking.

    My mum also had BC, but her treatment was so different when she had it. Even so, she lived with it for 12 years before it spread to liver, lungs, brain and bone. I have found that treatment has advanced tremendously since then and, that there is no comparison between the treatment and after care that she received and what I have received 20 years on. Then people died of cancer, now many are living with cancer. This is all thanks to our friends at Cancer Research and other organizations, which work tirelessly to improve our outcomes.

    Please keep in touch and let us know how you get on. We are always here for you.

    Kind regards,

    Jolamine xx

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