Hi Foyland,

Welcome to the forum. I wish I could give you some sound advice, but I'm just another cancer patient.

It seems like your sister has invested so much hope into this alternative therapy that even when she is obviously deteriorating she is unable to admit to herself that it was misguided. 

There is no scientific evidence that any of these dietary therapies is effective. Even the people who advocate these diets usually claim that they help prevent cancer, rather than cure it. Driving sensibly helps prevent accidents but once a car is damaged driving sensibly won't cure it, however hard you try. 

I hope you somehow manage to persuade her to see a doctor, if only for the sake of her children.

Best wishes

Dave

Thankyou Chrissie for replying.

it sounds like you've had a scary journey and made some difficult decisions but that were worth it.

My sister says to me when she first had her diagnosis she was so scared she couldn't think properly or focus on her babies but after some counselling something changed in her and she didn't have that anxiety anymore but when she thinks of going to the dr now she is scared that the fear will come back, and though she is not suicidal she says that that feeling made her not care if she died and she does not want to return there.

i want her to find out what's going on as then she can make some proper informed choices but she is so determined not to. Unfortunately it's taking its toll on her marriage and her quality of life.

thanks for your positivity, Im definitely going to keep trying to help her X

Hi Dave thankyou for replying.I think your so right about how much she has invested into the alternative route and that she now is struggling to make that you turn.

She has spent months searching the internet for info and diets on curing cancer naturally but won't even ask what a medic might suggest, it's so frustrating. I don't understand why a combination of both cannot be tried.

when I've asked her about the kids in the past and won't she just do it for them she says she is doing this for them, she says someone needs to Try and find a cure that doesn't involve surgery and chemo. Unfortunately there is a strong history with both mother and mother in law having had breast cancer ( and survived ) and uncle passing away from breast cancer. So is concerned the girls will have a high chance of getting breast cancer.

Many thanks

Maggie

Hi hope all well!

my partner of 14 years has refused breast ca treatment since June 2017, she had mastectomy and axillary clearance in nov 2018, refusing chemo since, we have 3 kids 10, 8 and 6, very stressful, we separated in Jan 2019 due to our irreconcilable differences due to her choices, 3% of women under 65 refuse cancer treatment, she looks unwell, thin, grey complexion, I have been a General and mental health nurse for 25 years which makes it even harder! how is your sister now?