Hi there 888... bless ya, that's why we come here, coz lots can sympathise but we actually empathize, with all those emotions we go through ... it helps you say thank you, to those who mean well, and come on here to have a rant ... and lots of us know exactly what you mean ... 

I loved those texts that just said, thinking of you ... or sending a hug ... they always made me smile, but I do feel for people who do try their hardest to say something, coz that is so hard for some people to do .. and weather helpfully or not, they tried... I think maybe some over think it, trying to help ... 

I'm in the breast cancer journey with you ... had my mastectomy last July... so welcome to our little room, where you can say anything ... all the best for the rest of your journey... regards  Chrissie xx 

Hello and welcome to the club that no one ever really wants to join ;)

I had my radical prostatectomy on Dec 21st 2010. I enjoyed Xmas, even though I slept through a lot of it. However, I had to wait 6 weeks for a follow up and path report, and the last couple of weeks were torture. At the meeting itself there was a 30 minute delay because the path report hadn't been faxed through to the surgeon, so he had to chase that up while my wife and I were waiting.  The longer I waited, the more I thought this can only mean bad news, but in fact it was good news and we could both breath again. 

You might think that the waiting gets easier, but it doesn't. This is one of the prices of cancer than no one ever mentions if they're not affected!

I think this is an area where more research is needed on the best way to handle results and good/bad news.