Hi Kate,

Welcome to Cancer Chat, the site that nobody really wants to join. I am so sorry to hear about the mets after you have been through so much to fight this.This cannot be easy for you when you still have young children and were led to believe that it could be cured.

.I lost my Mum to metastases from breast cancer twenty years ago. I myself was diagnosed with breast cancer 7 years ago and with a second bout of primary cancer in the same breast  the following year. I had a lumpectomy the first time followed by Tamoxifen and a double mastectomy the next time followed by Letrozole. I have just come off Letrozole this year and am now waiting for a bone scan, as I have been having a lot of back and tummy pain accompanied by chronic constipation. I will see the oncologist to discuss things after that. So, once again, I am in fear of a secondary diagnosis - Surely, I couldn't be fortunate enough to have a third primary cancer? I must confess that I have always dreaded getting a secondary diagnosis.

Please keep in touch and let us know how you get on. There is always someone here whenevever you feel like talking. It is often helpful to be able to chat with others who have first-hand experience of what you are going through, rather than worrying family even more. I have never been a good sleeper, but I have real problems since my diagnosis, so I spend the early hours of the morning on this site. no doubt we'll meet here some time soon!

Thinking of you and hoping that you find a chemo  that works for you soon.

Kind regards,

Jolamine xx

 Hi kate, so sorry to hear this news , what you are going through even for you to write this post brings tears to my eyes, you must be a courages women. I am on the waiting list at the moment  to attend the gynaecology department as have had postmenopausal bleeding , also my bowels  are slowely not workingand have been peeing alot more than normal. I had an ultra sound and my cervical lining was at 8.2 , which they like to be under 4 or 5. I havent been diagnosed with cancer as of yet, but thats what they are looking for. I went for a biopsy today and it couldnt be done asmy cervix was closed and scared , and wouldnt open to allow it to proceed, so again i have to wait on that, i have been fulled with dread, and cant seem to stop crying  and i  always though i was a strong women ,but now the moment someone speaks to me i start crying because of being so scared. I also am not sleeping well and am up and down all night, so i can relate to that, and i would love to chat when ever i can with you, take care Barbara.

Hi Kate

ive just joined and read your story. You are very brave and my heart goes out to you. With young children too. 

I have stage 4 rectal and stage 1 liver Metz. All the doctors are positive I have a chance to get better hence primary treatment but we will see what CT shows after six. I'm on three this week. 

I have sleeping tablets else I don't sleep either. I'm happy to chat so will look out for you. We can get through this. 

Daisy16