Grieving

I lost my beautiful mum in December to pancreatic cancer, it's only been 3 months so the pain is still so so raw. she was only 65 and a brilliant nan to my 10 month old son who she absolutely doted on. I look at him and kills me to think she's missing out on so much and he's gonna miss out on having a brilliant nanny!! Every day seems surreal thinking it's a nightmare I'm eventually going to wake up and everything is OK but I know it's not.The missing part and not speaking on the phone everyday is horrendously painful. Ive tried to get counselling for my local gp but unfortunately there is a waiting list of at least 6 weeks so I just wondered if anyone can I offer any advice of who has been through this awful experience of how to maybe cope a bit better or counselling groups to contact. Thanks in advance. John x

  • Hi John, I'm really sorry you lost your mum to this terrible disease. 3 months is no time at all on the journey of grief, although we do all deal with it in different ways. I'm now further along, I lost my dad October 2015. Each day is hard as you have that emptiness of them not being around but I'm so much better than I was a year ago. I haven't had any counselling but it's quite therapeutic to come on here and speak with people who can relate to your situation. You also get to realise there are people losing their loved ones young and old. When I see people who passed years before my dad I appreciate those extra years rather than grieve all the years we didn't have. There is counselling on the phone on the phone but I can't think what the name is. Do you have any family you can talk with who know what you're going through. Take care