Stage 4 metastatic breast cancer

Hi all,

Just wanted to introduce myself after signing up to your forum. My name is Penny and I live with my husband of 28 years, three of my four children  (all girls), and my grandson Eoin - now 6 years old ! my other daughter and my grandaughter live just up the road so we are all close, thank goodness . 

I was diagnosed with stage 3a invasive breast cancer about 6 to 8 months after losing my dad in 2011. I completed treatment towards end of 2012 and returned to work.

A few years later I had been suffering for a while with a progressive and annoying malaise .  Nothing I could put my finger on and with no specific areas of complaint. we took the family out for the day on my Grandaughter's birthday and I just couldn't carry on. so i slept in the car and my husband took me to the drs the next day.

After two weeks in hospital they found the metastases on my liver.

It has been a downward spiral since then, still struggling to find a chemo or treatment to slow down the progression .  it is now also in my bones and my lungs, and I am now trying out on Eribulin  (second cycle with progression CT planned for just after the third cycle).

Having a bit of a wobbly day mentally today - contemplating going back to work on Monday after a fortnight off trying to regain some energy.

Hope this finds most of us in a good and positive state of mind this Remembrance weekend,

Penny xXx 

  • Hi penny

    sorry to hear your cancer is back.I really hope they find a treatment that works for you.

    I hope your coping ok? sounds like you have a very close and loving family around you though.

    I finished my treatment for stage 3 breast cancer in July. Just putting my feelers out with life now.

    I'm 38 next week with 3 young children of 2,7 and 12.I am finding moving on difficult and equally facing my uncertain future.

    I'm positive though and I'm wanting to live life however long I may have.It's funny idon't know if you feel the same but I've developed some kind of acceptance that my life may be shorter for this earth.I think it's the only way I can cope.

    I hope I don't sound depressing? Not my intention.

    I'm having a nice weekend.My boys have marched with scouts for remembrance today and I was so proud of them.

    My husband is off work for a couple of weeks and I get to spend time with him.He's going to be with me next week when I go to discuss reconstruction which I'm grateful for because I've still not made up my mind.

    I know what you mean about wobbly days....I have those,I've just completed 9 sessions with a phycologist and it's helped me very much.

    Thinking of you 

    Ness x 

  • Hello Ness,

    So sorry to hear you are having wobbling days as you call them but it must have been so hard to have treatment and to look after two young children.

    You seems to have a nice, loving and supportive husband. :-)

    Stay positive and focused. x

    I have stage 3 aggressive breast cancer and waitng for news on if i have neeon how everyoned to have chemo but hoping i will only need radiotherpy........feel more frightned now than i was first diognised..... :-(

    Reading on how everyone else is trying to cope and remain postive is helping me, if it makes sense.......

    Suprised. xx

  • Hi suprised Thanks for your reply:) I'm sorry to hear about your diagnosis.I also had stage 3 agressive BC. I remember feeling terrified of the treatment,there were points where I felt like running away from it all. In reality though we are well looked after and supported.I had much support and care from my chemo nurses they were fantastic at giving the right Meds to control the side effects etc..Chemo is doable honestly. it's not nice at times but you will get through it if you have to. Remember to talk all this through with your team they will be able to help. We are all here for you too to talk,vent or give advice. Thinking of you Ness x
  • Hello Ness,

    Thank you for your supportive words. :-)

    Watch this space.........lol.....x