Hi Lesley

Sorry to hear about your husbands diagnosis. I am sure what you are going through is typical of how most people react. Make the most of the time you have left and follow his lead regarding how he wants to deal with this. Do talk cry together be strong together.

There are many on here who are learning to live without their life partners and although you may not think it you will to.

Thank you so very much River, today well yesterday things brightened up after a conversation with our specalist Nurse (Jenny) and a day with the kids (we have 3 ages 30, 27 & 21) nothing has changed but it gave us more of an insight into what to expect next..... I must admit when the Dr gave us the news we just needed to get out of the hospital as we were both suffering from information overload and our brains had switched off.

Todays another day and we will deal with it how it comes... along with a mountain of ironing that needs my attention  (nowt much changes there..... if it falls on me you may not hear from me till christmas time )

Much Love & ThankYou x

Hi Lesley I'm in the same position as you my husband had a back problem which turned out to have been caused by lung cancer, which is in his spine & liver diagnosed late August. Our prognosis isn't rosy either & like yourself I'm devastated, heartbroken, angry & more.  We met when I was 14 & I'm 48 on Monday.  We have been blessed with 2 beautiful daughter aged 23 & 26 & became grandparents last year which we love.

I can't imagine a future without him, I can't even process it but we are taking each day at a time & trying to make more happy memories to last my lifetime.

Be kind to yourself it's fine to cry, scream shout or whatever helps don't feel guilty either it's human nature to feel sorry for ourselves it's someone you love.

Big hugs, love & strength to you all

Jude 

Thanks Jude, I know we are all in this together and your reply cheered me up no end.

Well Ian's "book" arrived yesterday I think it was from the Roy castle Foundation or something, there was a diagram showing his cancer sites .... there were 4 not the 2 as we were lead to believe, its safe to say it pulled the rug from under him and he had a tearfull day. I cleaned the house, to cope I clean! Its as if this mystery has all become very real and very clear.

Todays just starting and its another day, the house is quiet, even the pets are still asleep, the sun is shining Today is going to be a good day x

Much love to All x