Hi R_V_B 

I'm really sorry to hear about your dad's situation. Good to hear that he is feeling ok at the moment. My dad has been diagnosed with stage 4 cancer & waiting to hear if it's spread to other organs or not (fingers crossed it hasn't). 

Can they not do a bone scan and then put him on the trial? Or have you asked the Drs if there are any other options available? 

It's fine to cry, it's a difficult situation to be in and crying is a release of emotions. As someone else said on another post everyone deals with difficult situations/their emotions in different ways & as you mentioned it may be that your family are dealing with it privately.  Try and make sure you look after yourself too by doing some 'normal' things like spending time with friends, eating/sleeping as best you can & a bit of exercise as this might make it a bit easier to deal with things as well as finding support on this forum.

Sending hugs xx

Hi, I'm very sorry to hear about your father. My father also got diagnosed with terminal prostate cancer 2 months ago. It's extremely hard being told that's the tumour has turned agressive, as this is the news that we had also. I resigned from work, to become his full time carer - my mother is too fragile and she can't lose her job and my little sister is too young to deal with this. I know where you're coming from, I cry almost every day too - this is normal, no one is built to take on such a role involved with someone so close to you. I'm 19 years old and my life has changed completely in the last two months. The most important thing is to make sure our fathers have a very comfortable life with us, no matter how long they have left. We need to be strong and there for them, even if its tearing us apart. Have you tried any support groups, I've heard they help immensely - although I can't vouch, as I haven't ever attended one. Amy.

Hey so sorry for the delay in replying. My dad had his bone scan a week ago so we're waiting for the results on that. Also his next oncology appointment is in 3 weeks time. He still seems ok and his hormone therapy seems to be ok. He still has bladder trouble as in rushing to the loo. Also he had some back and tummy pain the last few days and that's now gone, I phoned the oncology and urology department about it and they said take painkillers as they can't advise anything until they get his bone scan results. He seems ok mentally and physically but he seems down some days obviously. He seems to have stopped going out lately, and he seems to stay in watching TV a lot! I don't want him to waste the time he has left (however long that is) by staying in and watching TV. :(  I'm arranging days out for us but we can't go too far or he gets tired. We can go/travel about an hour or less away. Have u had to give up work, and look after him because he's already quite bad from it? I do have my mom who's with him the majority of the time xx