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I'm scared that i'm going to lose my nan any day now

Emily1810
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Hi,

My name is Emily and i'm 15 years old. I'm new to the forum as I have been fortunate enough to never encounter the horrors of cancer before, until now. 

My nan has recently been diagnosed with terminal cancer and is at such an advanced stage, we could lose her at any point. Nan had been ill over Christmas, (with pains in her stomach and lower abdomen) and had been to the doctors several times and has had tests and scans done too. The doctors said that it was a growth in her womb and that it was fortunately not cancerous. This was a relief to our family as it only needed to be taken out, however that was not the case. The doctors could find no cancer in the womb because it hadn't reached there yet. Sadly, the cancer apperead to have started in the lungs and worked it's way down into the stomach and keeps spreading downwards, that is when we found that there was no chance of nan surviving. The news came as such a shock to us as we thought it was something treatable, i'm so close to my nan and don't want to lose her especially since I recently lost my dad to an unexpected heart attack. Some may say that i'm so young to be dealing with this type of thing but i just feel so sorry for my brother who his only 9. I was hoping you'd share some tips on coping and how to stay positive.

Thank You x

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    Emily, I felt so sad reading about your nan's prognosis.  I know how distraught you feel, having been there with my own oarents and grandparents.  I , too, am terminally ill with wonderful grandchildren, mostly around your age.  I know that they have meltdowns (their parents tell me) but we see each other as often as we can and we make memories.    Sadly, all through our lives we have to face the deaths of our loved ones, and it is never the same.  Take one day at a time, don't think of tomorrow and what it will bring as it is never what we expect.  

    Life isn't fair, having lost your dad too is a dreadful shock to your system.  Your little brother will need you so much, take care of each other.  We are always here. xx

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    Hi Emily

    Sorry that your nan has cancer.

    As well as coming here, you could also have a look at riprap.

    This is a website for teenagers affected by cancer.

    You can chat to others as well as find out information there.

    Please let us know how you are getting on anytime you would like to talk about how you are feeling.

    As Pauline4 has said, we are always here.

    Best wishes

    Jane

     

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    Emily - I send you a huge hug and I want to tell you that I am in awe of your emotional intelligence, maturity, perceptiveness and openness.  Your strength shines through - but sometimes, allow weakness and vulnerability because you are, and have, dealt with such difficult and traumatic situations.  Given your superb talent for writing - would your Nan appreciate you reading to her something you could write about all the fun times you have experienced together or spend time with your Nan making a collage of photos of great family times or just asking your Nan to tell you what you can do to make tomorrow fun/special/different?  These are all trite suggestions and I hope they spark off in you some much more original and appropriate thoughts which I suspect you have zillions of!  You are special - and you will get through this.

    Sian

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