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Husband diagnosed with stage 4 pancreatic cancer

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My husband and I are both 53, two weeks before Christmas he was diagnosed with terminal pancreatic cancer.  Our world has been turned upside down by the diagnosis.  We were looking forward to enjoying ourselves more in 2016 as 2015 was a difficult year.  I can not even begin to contemplate not having by husband around as we have been together since we were 16, we have been so lucky to have such a wonderful long relationship. 

I am struggling with the emotional side of it all.  My husband seems very accepting and just wants to organise everything to make it easier for me when he is not longer here.  He stuggles with the not knowing how long he has?  He has started palative chemotherapy and the side affects do not seem to bad at the moment.  Though he is very tired. We have three children and 2 grandchildren who have all taken the news very differently.

 

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    Hi Frankinsence

    My Mother has the same diagnosis. How is your husband doing? My Mum is 62 and has had Abraxane/ Gemcitabine combo of chemotherepy and has done very well on it. She is still with us- and- touch wood- pretty well- after a year. I really didn't think we would have this long. It's very very hard not knowing and having this hanging over you all. It is draining for everyone.  Love to you and a prayer (even agnositics need something) ;) Love N.Kate

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    Hi N.Kate,

    I wondered how your mother is doing with her chemo? My mum has just been diagnosed with stage 4 pancreatic cancer that has spread to her liver. She will starting the Abraxane/Gemcitabine combo on Wednesday and her oncologist is very positive that she will respond well. What that means we don’t really know but I was encouraged reading your post. 

    Hope to hear from you.

    adrienne 

     

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    Hi Kate,

        My wife is diagnose with stage 4 cancer too. just like you I m scare and nervous too. i just feel so along and depress especially this holiday

    Arnel

     

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    Hi All, My mum hasn't received a formal diagnosis as yet but with the way they are rushing her through tests, we are fearing the worst. She has been told she has a 2cm growth on her pancreas and shadows on her liver. 5 years ago she had a full thyroidectomy and radiation treatment and has since had the all clear. In fact she had her usual scan only a few weeks ago giving her the all clear but after having some severe abdominal pain was referred for a scan and now this. She has already been discussing options with the doctor which makes me feel in the pit of my stomach that it is going to be what we fear the most. Trying to remain positive until we know for sure but I am beyond devastated. My husband is not very good at dealing with emotional stuff so feeling a little lost as to where to outpour. :(

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