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Torums
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Hi all,

My mum was diagnosed in August 2014 with PPC. After chemo and surgery, she had the all-clear in Feb 2015 but the little pests returned in October 2015 and she is undergoing more chemo (which it is thankfully responding to). I'm 26 and work away from home, but while I was back over Christmas she let me know that the oncologist has said it is incurable and will continue to recur until it no longer responds to treatment.

I'm really worried for her and my dad and I've spent the last week on the verge of tears. As a family, we're not very good at voicing our emotions and I've found it very hard to talk to anyone about it. Mum especially is facing everything with her typical resilient humour (we decorated our Christmas tree this year with her hospital armbands and spare cannulas and she's planning on making a hospital-armband-paperchain for the house) so I don't want to get upset in front of her.

Thanks all xx

T

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    Hello Torums,

    A big welcome to the forum and thanks for the driving tips on the other thread!

    Your mother does indeed have a very resiliant sense of humour and the Christmas tree decorations were pretty unusual!

    There is nothing wrong with your feeling emotional or tearful. It shows how much you care about your mum. I think joining this forum was a great idea. I hope others will be along soon to chat to you, because I know we have many members here who are dealing with similar emotions and are caring for a parent with cancer. 

    If you ever wanted to talk to someone on the phone, our nurses are always all ears on 0808 800 4040. You can reach them Monday to Friday 9am to 5pm and best of all, it's a free number from UK landlines.

    Best wishes,

    Lucie, Cancer Chat Moderator

     

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    Hi Torums,

    What you have said about having problems talking to your family is something so many people have said they have problems with. Thats why this forum is so good for on here you can talk openly and honestly in a way you would find hard to do with family of friends. I think there are several reasons for this; the main one being we dont want to upset or worry our family by letting them see how upset or worried we are. We try to show a brave face to to world while inside we are in turmoil.

    Wishing you and your family all the very best, Brian.

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