Hi Alex

No apologies are needed as the forum is here when you need it to be. It is good to read that you have the support of nurses. I was often in awe as to their vocation and kindness to the family as a whole in my husband's time of need and felt that due to their  support  I was in a position to gain strength. Take care and be kind to  yourself too.Jules

Well , Mum amazed us all and lasted until the 14th April at 10.30 pm . She passed at home as she wished . Am I upset ? Yes . Have I cried ......No , none of us have . It's a relief for all concerned. I've seen and done stuff no son should do , my dad and brother are broken and will never be the same again . But still no tears .....out of all of this I've learnt , when it gets nearer the time no matter how you think you can cope with all the changing , cleaning and care . You can't! 

Alex, I'm so sorry for your loss. You have been through a very difficult time with your Mom's illness. You need to take the time now to recover from this, and to take care of yourself. I hope your family can come together and support one another. You can still come on to the forum and get support from the friends you have made here. I know they will be along soon to respond to your post.

Lorraine

Alex my condolences on the loss your your dear Mum. You now need time to heal.  Life is never quite the same after such a loss but I know you, your brother and Dad will support each other as you begin a new phase of your own lives. I am 16months on from my own loss and my adult children and I keep busy but still there is a sadness of how the illness left us feeling robbed.  It is not always necessary to cry to be able to grieve but emotions do come when you are  not always expecting it.  Thinking of you and your family. Jules

Hello Alex.B,

Our sincere condolences to you and your family. Thanks a lot for taking the time to let us know. Don't worry about the fact that you didn't cry - we all deal with grief in different ways and as Lorraine said try and take care of yourself too after all you have been through.

Our forum is always there for you any time you need to talk.

Best wishes,

Lucie, Cancer Chat Moderator

Thanks, my time here is done . You guys are ace and this has been a great information source, we will deal with tomorrow as a family then get on a live for the day ! Each and every one of them .

Thanks Jules and Lorraine