My husband has terminal cancer

Hi my name is Hailey 30 married to the best man it the wworld for just about 2 years Kevin my best friend and soul mate Kevin was being treated for a abcess after dental work this pain in Kevins mouth and face went on for over a yea rand two proment lumps appeared and he had various occasion we visited  different doctor and dental appointments scans x-ray antibiotics nothing was helping Kevin was referred to the maxillfacial outpatients clinic and sent for more scans on the 5th of June 2015 sent for a biopsy of the lumps that were on Kevin face around his cheek bone

Monday 8 June Kevin was diagnosed with a mouth cancer we were devastated our whole world collapsed around us I cried all the way through the appointments through the course of the nxt week Kevin had a ct and mri scan as the consultant proposed severe surgery loss of his eye ect and intense radiotherapy so the scans were to check if the cancer had spread to his lungs if that was the case no surgery was to bedone.

Monday 15th June one week after our world had collapsed back for the results of the ct and mri scans to be told not only had the cancer spread but not to my husbands lungs but up the Base of his scull the back of his eye  and in to his brain HE HAD TERMINAL CANCER!! 

My lovely husband 37 4 kids we have one boy together marc 6 and Kevin has 3 daughters one of which stays with us.

I'm 30 and watching my husband dying my kid's are watching there dad die no treatment how can this be......

At this time 2 september my husbands cancer has progressed major he now has a hole in his face the size if a 50p piece and is loosing his self everyday.

This is the first time I have ever done a blog but I have read some other stories, how are we ment to get through this situation? How are we going to do this I love my husband so damb much he's such a loving hardworking man who is always there for us all and me as his wife feeling lost and helpless xx 

  • Hi Hailey

    Thank you for coming to this forum and talking about your situation. I can feel the heart wrenching agony that you are going through, watching your lovely man being destroyed by this wicked disease. No amount of words I can say will make you feel any better, but talking about Kevin and sharing your feelings with the people you love, that will help you through. I wish you and your family lots of strength to get through the difficult times ahead. Kim

  • Hi Hailey

    welcome to the chat forum, so sorry you have come here under such very sad and devastating circumstances.  I can't even begin to think what you must all be going through.  Nothing I could say would help I am sure but I will keep you in my prayers that you all find strength to deal with this as you travel this journey.  My heart is hurting for you I am truly sorry and wish we could make this horrible disease go away!! I hope more people respond to you here as there are some wonderful people here who have been through so much as well and maybe they will have the right words for you.  Please know I am sending you lots of prayer and rant here anytime if it helps.

    Bless you all, love and light

    JB x

  • Thank you all for your kind words xx 

  • Hi Hailey

    I'm so sorry that you are going through such an awful time at such a young age..

    Life can be very unfair. Unfair? What an understatement that is!  I hope you have lots of family and friends supporting you as you look after your lovely husband. Make every second count. Enjoy every moment - even those moments that once upon a time would seem boring and mundane like just holding hands while watching tv or hearing your man breathing when you wake in the night.

     Please know that you are never alone.

    The lovely people here on this forum  helped me through some really tough times when my husband was diagnosed with lung cancer in the summer. We are all here for you should you feel the need to kick off and vent a little or if you just want to ask questions.. Your virtual friends aren't just UK based so even in the middle of the night you will probably find support. During my husbands journey I frequently found that I was awake in the middle of the night as he was snoring! Fast asleep. Coming here to get my worries off my chest while he was sleeping was a great help. He never saw how often I cried during those night time hours. 

    Although non of us know 'exactly' how you feel because our journeys are all different we can all empathise with you. 

    Sending love

    Netty

     

     

     

     

  • Thanks netty for your kind words life is so brutal and unexplainable sometimes but we are realising that every second counts x