Hi Rebecca, welcome to the forum. but sorry you're here because your Mom is ill with cancer. I think most of us never think ahead to the day when our parents will die before us. We just don't want to go there, but when the day comes that we will lose a parent, it hits us like a ton of bricks. I have lost both of my parents, my Dad at age 61 with cancer, and my Mom at age 90 from natural causes. My Dad dying that young was devastating for me. My Mom had Altzheimer's disease for the last 3 years of her life and that was so hard too because she was here in body, but not a lot of the time in mind. Our parents die before us and that is the natural order of things, but of course its' hard. I also lost my son and that took my grief to a whole other level. For sure, parents are certainly not supposed to bury their children. I know you are going through a very difficult time and my heart goes out to you. You are trying to be there for her now and helping where and when you can. Try to take some comfort in that and you will get through this as difficult as it is and know that you're not alone.

Take care of yourself and sending you hugs.

Lorraine