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Hi.....I had surgery on 20/4/15 to remove a cancer from my bowel that was picked up during a routine screening programme. Since then me and my family have been on a rollercoaster of emotions. It goes without saying, and I'm certain most people will agree that the worst thing of all is the waiting. I saw my lovely oncologist today and have had everything explained as to the next step. I am about to embark on five months of chemotherapy. I will have infusion on week one , medication on weeks two and three, and woo-hoo week four off before starting it all again. I am having a contrast MRI tomorrow on my liver and I am praying that this doesn't throw any spanner in the works.  My cancer was classed as a Dukes C..t4 with N1 lymph nodes. I would like to hear if anyone can relate to this. 

Thanks xxxx

 

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    Hi Roxy,

    Your cancer and treatment isn't something I'm too familiar with, so apologies for that, but I did just want to make a quick reply.

    My wife is going through Breast Cancer, we thought she'd got rid of it but it's come back now...

    During our pain we found that the anticipation of what might happen was ultimately worse than the act itself. That might not be obvious help to you, but if you can keep yourself busy/distracted at low moments by meeting a friend/family member or similar you will benefit mentally and be able to cope with the 'act itself' when it happens. Your own tiredness and stresses are also your enemy, although as I'm writing this I'm realising it's easier said than done and I need to take my own advice!

    I wish you the very best of luck and hope that God is with you and your loved ones. We make our own luck by being positive in times of adversity.There is always hope, you've got to identify where it is in your circumstances and look towards it. Turn a blind eye to the rubbish you pass along the way.

    Nige x

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    Hi there Nige 

    Thanks for your support. I'm so sorry that you and your wife are having to endure this awful thing again. You are so right. Anticipating things is the worse thing but sometimes you just can't help yourself. By nature I am a fairly positive person and I don't intend to change, if I am having a low day I will just accept it as a one of and get on with it.. I had the MRI yesterday and should get the results on Thursday. 

    I have two amazing sons aged 22 and 24. The youngest one has slight learning difficulties and he is having trouble getting his head around this. My elder son is just very quiet. Like his dad. Lol 

    I also have an amazing family and circle of friends. I hope that you are also getting the help and support that you need at this time. If you want to talk about your wife's cancer please feel free to do so or even friend me if you don't want it to be public. 

    Take care Nige and God Bless.

    I hope to hear from you

    Mx

     

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    Hi , roxi, I just went threw 4 weeks of bloods, scans & xray,  I knew at week 1 I had bowel cancer , the rest was a big long wait , although the wait is not wasted time , this is when the ppl involved are working out plan to get things in order . My final wait was yesterday, when I found out I have rectal cancer, it's do low down in the rectum I need to have it removed & have a bag for life , my liver scans & ct , mri all came back clear, which was good , I start radiotheropy for 6 wks now b4 my op in a few months , good luck with ur scans & think positive xxx

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    Hi Kat

    Sorry to see you have joined us....

    My bowel cancer was picked up when I had a positive bowel screen test done. That was in January. I had to have a colonoscopy done and was diagnosed with cancer the same day. It really comes as a mega shock to have this news. My surgery was quite straightforward and although there was a chance I might have had to have a stoma bag I was very lucky that I didn't need one. I also had my ovaries and Fallopian tubes removed although not through cancer, just cysts. I am a bit gutted that it might have spread to my liver as previous scans on it were clear, but time will tell.  I should know more on Thursday so fingers crossed xxxx

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