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Sandi M
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My name is Sandi, and my husband has an aggressive form of Prostate Cancer! I try to stay strong for him but I can't always. As we get news on his progress, I seem to need time to digest the news, to grieve and deal with things in my head and then very shortly after, I get on with it. My husband and I are doing a lot of things he has always wanted to do! I am so happy that he still wants to do things and he has such a great outlook! He has his bad days, but for the most part, is in great spirits! I hope to be a support to someone else who is the care giver of someone with cancer.

My husband went back to work and I think it really helps him not to dwell on his illness. :)

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    Hi Sandi,

    So sorry to read about your husbands prostate cancer. As someone who has had and recovered from prostate cancer, I can understand your concerns. You cant always stay strong; you are only human. I ooften say it is often harder for the family and friends of the patients for outwardly, you are try to show you are coping  but often this is not the case. It is so hard watching someone you love suffering. The one good thing is treatment has made big progress in the past few years.

    The fact he is in good spirits is a positive thing. Please keep in contact and anytime you want to talk there is usually someone on here. Sending best wishes and kind thoughts your way, Brian.

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    Thank you so much for the post and support :)

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    G MORNING Sandi - yes I know a little about being with someone with C. It can be a toughy for you indeed. Thank goodness you're hubby has a great attitude to it all.  You must try to stay positive also even though you may not want to. I get flakey inside and it is hard. All we can do is have the attitude of those in the 1945 war of practicality and survival. 

    I wish our leaders had promised more money for cancer research - they would have got my vote!

    Have a lovely day brave lady

    Steven xx 

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    Hi Sandi,
    Welcome to the forum where as you have already found the people are absolutely magic. 
    I fully understand the processing of info and toughening yourself up to be able to cope.  I opened hubbys results before the doc saw us  (in Australia you can chose to wait for results so I would either arrange for a friend to drop off or pick up myself as forewarned is forearmed, and knowledge is power) so knew what was coming and stronger therefore to be able to support hubby on his journey when doc/specialist told us the latest.  
    Great news hubby has been able to go back to work. "normality" is good.  But how are you going?  You have to look after yourself too honey.
    Thinking of you
    Sending big hugs
    Kathy xx
     

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