Oh my goodness, you poor thing. Your situation is exactly the same as mine on the dad front but I am lucky enough to have my husband's support and I don't live as far from my dad. My dad is in the hospice now, I'm typing from his bedside. He is in ha last hours/days after 15 years of PC - just like yours. I can't tell you how you will cope with looking after your kids or how you overcome the geographic issues of where you are - but I can tell you that you will cope with your dad's situation. I never in ail lion yeas thought that I could do this without completey cracking up - but I am doing it. I'm here on my own at the moment with him. I've stayed here  overnight the past two nights with my mum looking after him. And I am not the nursing type! But you will find a strength you never knew you had - sounds so cliched but it's true. Sending you best wishes. All you can do is just hold on. K x

Steph

Im so sorry to hear that you are having to split yourself so many ways right now. I know first hand what its like having a close family member who is seriously ill and at the other end of the country. Is there a hospice near you who might be able to offer a listening ear to you so you dont feel so alone?  Its been quite a number of years since my family and I were in a similar situation so Im a bit rusty on practical help. I think macmillan offer a freephone number if you just need to chat. Im sorry I cant offer you much help or comfort but please know you are not alone. I hope you feel well enough to make the journey to to your family

Inula x 

Thansk for both your replies, Ive just found out form my sister that he is too ill to move to the hospice today and I am waiting for my other half to get here to drive us. I just want to be with him - please let him hold on until I get there. 

Dear Steph

First, I hope you get to see your Dad and say goodbye. 

You are obviously having a dreadful time with all these problems coming at once. I know how you feel. In 1981 my first marriage broke up, my grandfather died, and then two weeks after that my father died. My mum could not cope and started drinking heavily. She had a complete breakdown. All of this happened within three months.

I was in a really bad way, and had to be looked after by the mental health services.

But, as George Harrison sang, All Things Must Pass. You will get through this. It will probably always cause you pain when you remember about it. But you will survive. You are in my thoughts and prayers. Please keep us on this site updated.

Long distance hugs to you and your children.  Fiona xx