Hello cantcope,

Welcome to our forum! I think your username tells us a lot about how difficult things are for you at the moment and it is only normal for you to feel this way after only getting the news three weeks ago. You have come to the right place though to meet others who have been in the same situation as you and have also felt they didn't have all the answers to their questions and I am sure they will be along soon to share their experience with you and give you some advice.

In the meantime, we have an excellent freephone service and our cancer information nurses may be able to answer some of your questions or give you some suggestions on what questions to ask when you meet his medical team again- you can ring them on 0808 800 4040 (Monday to Friday 9am to 5pm) or ask them a question in the Ask the Nurses section of this forum.

I will now let our members come and say hello to you and perhaps share some insights into their own story,

Best wishes,

Lucie, Cancer Chat Moderator

Hi there Cantcope, I'm so sorry for your Dad's diagnosis of cancer. You've come to the right place though because everyone on this forum is dealing with cancer in one way or another; either as a patient, or as a caregiver. Most of us have been where you are too, with the frustrations that seem to go along with going through the initial stages of screening to determine just exactly what is going on with your Dad's cancer. I can't give you any definite answers as to why you aren't getting any answers, other than to say that all of these scans, X-rays, etc. take time to be evaluated and there are so many different medical people involved in the assessments that it all has to be pulled together before you can get the answers. This is a very difficult time for anyone to be going through and all, or most of us have gone through it too. I'm sure you will have answers soon and then a treatment plan will be put in place for your Dad. As for the colon cancer diagnosis he had 5 years ago, no doubt there likely wasn't any reason for him to have chemo back then because there likely wasn't any cancer evidenced then. I had colon cancer 5 years ago too, and there didn't appear to be any issues once I had the colon re-section, but here I am, dealing with lung cancer that is directly related to the colon cancer that I had and this is my 2nd lung surgery coming up on Dec. 11th. I also have bladder cancer now too. For some people, a first diagnosis is sometimes the beginning of a series of cancers that continue to reccur, either in the same place or another place.

I hope you get answers soon and then treatment for your Dad will get started. Come on to the forum any time and keep us up to date with how you and your Dad are doing as you take this journey together. I'm sure you will hear from others on here very soon. I'm glad you are there for your Dad and I'm sure he really appreciates you being there for him.

Take care. Sending you hugs.

Lorraine

We will light a candle and place it in our front window for dad.

We are thinking of you all

Thank you lorraine,and i'm sorry to hear about your on going issuses you sound like a

courgeous woman to be dealing and have delt with all that you've had going on ,

The results of the pet scan are in apparently but they (doctors) arre not disscussing my dad until at least friday which then takes us into week five.

This is so frustrating !!! 

God bless you bright eyes x

While you are waiting for dads tests and treatment. Look on Youtube and search for Self Compassion. I have found peace from learning these techniques and would recommend them to anyone. I wish you all peace. We don't know the why's or how's of cancer - all we know is that many people have to walk down this road so we are not alone or different, we are with friends and caring people = I salute all of us and offer blessings to you and your family at this time

Thank you all for your comments and support dad has called this morning and he is definatley on the list to be spoken about tomorrow so i'm hoping that we will know what happens next tomorrow afternoon /early next week x

Love and prayers to you all x