Hi Cassy,
Great that your hubby is so positive, good on that man!!!!   So truly wonderful how he is planning for next March.
Sometimes you just need to follow the lead of the person with this dreadful illness. In all honesty whatever gives our nearest and dearest happiness/ peace of mind/ contentment let it be.
I know where you are honey, been there, so as you have so kindly mentioned to Kimchosen, you too are not alone.
Big hugs
Kathy x

I've not much to add & this may be of no help but taking your title literally, Are all stage 4 diagnoses terminal?, you may be interested to know that I survived stage 4 Non-Hodgkin's Lymphoma I had 14 years ago.  I found out recently that 14 years ago I was give a 20% chance of surviving for 2 years. I think, as has been explained, the stage refers to the spread, & stage 4 doesn't necessarily mean that it's terminal. I was expected to die & had only palliative treatment but was completely cured. Your mother is being treated with the objective of a cure, which I think ought to be encouraging .Probably the staff involved expect that to be regarded as good news.  I hope her treatment is a complete success.

Hi I was wondering whether somebody can help me... My dad has been diagnosed with stage 4 non small cell lung cancer which has apparently gone into his lymph node near the chest. He also has a cancer which has spread to his pelvis. He has shown no symptoms other than slight weakness in his leg. He's had no cough no nothing to show he has lung cancer. The doctors tell us he as 12 months to 24 months to live. I won't accept this as he is still positive and believes that there's nothing wrong with him. They have offered us palliative care however we have been doing better some home natural remedies too. Is it possible these doctors can get it wrong as I read that people have beaten this at stage 4.  Our family has been torn apart and we are all losing our minds. We love him so much and to lose him would leave such a dark big hole in all our lives. 

I am sorry to hear of what your dad and family are going through.  Why not get a second opinion? I believe you are entitled to on the NHS - your GP will advise you.

You can obviously pay privately for another consultation.  I met a lady a few months ago whilst I was having chemo.  She told me that her NHS consultant told her back in 2009 that there was no more he could do for her lung cancer and gave her a prognosis of months. She sought another opinion (privately in her case) and is still going strong with treatment.  Always stay hopeful - it's what keeps us going.. x

I have a friend whose being diagonose a stage 4 cancer on pancreatic or bile duct. what are the chances of survival. as they  have not started treatment as yet after 8 weeks of doing tests and biopsises.  Thanks

Hi 07ladym

Sorry to hear about your friend - unfortunately figures for pancreatic cancer are not good especially if it's spread which it sounds as if it has if it's stage 4 

The page is here: www.cancerresearchuk.org/.../statistics-and-outlook-for-pancreatic-cancer

Bile duct cancer has a very marginally better outlook

www.cancerresearchuk.org/.../statistics-outlook-bile-duct-cancer

Hi I was diagnosed in 2009 with stage 4 non Hodgkin and was told the out look wasn't good but 6 yes on after chemo I'm still here doing well. Personally I do think when u hear the cancer it's heart breaking but we all just have to be positive and kick it in the butt.

I so wish Cancer Chat had a "Like" button! 

Hi,

sorry i missed this post until now. I have a greened treated for base of tongue cancer and he had similar treatment to me. We are both doing fine now. How is your dad? Probably over the worst of it by now?