Hi there, i'm writing this today before i travel to see my mum (she lives in a different county), she told me on friday that she has lung cancer. We don't know how bad it is yet, she's had a ct scan and she's to go to see the doc on tues, so all is not lost yet, however, it is going to be so hard to stay positive because almost 11 years ago we were all in the same position, as my dad also had lung cancer and we had to watch him go, he died 28 days after being diagnosed. When my dad told me about himself, and then we went to visit them, i knew he wasn't going to get better, before he knew himself, (he looked shocking), and now, i am dreading seeing my mum incase i feel the same again, what if i know? how can i keep smiling? she keeps apologising for losing weight and that i'll be shocked. this sounds so selfish i realise as i'm writing this but i can't help it. my sister was 11 when dad died and now she's 22 and has a 4 year old daughter who dotes on her grandma,(as they live right next door), if it is bad news how the hell do we tell her? i have an 18 month old son, he doesn't see his grandma as often and at his age will not likely remember her so it will be easier for me to deal with in regards to him, but what about my dear sister and niece? i realise how negative this reads and i know it is, but having been here before, i can't snap out of it, i just want my mum to be ok. i am quite a private person, and keep my emotions in check, so i won't upset my mum, stepdad or sister, just wanted to share, because i need some other people to talk to because i can't keep it all to myself. My fiancee has been brilliant as he was there the first time round so knows whats going on, so its not like i don't have support, just want to chat thats all. sorry for the negativity.
