Hi Terri

Sending my condolences to you,Jamie and the family following the passing of his stepdad. I know words cannot make it easier to bear and that only with time can the grieving process take its course. It's such a personal journey for all the family and friends.  Holding hands and hugs are good and supporting each other as you have always done will bring comfort.

Hope your grandad's op goes well and can imagine a few cups of tea/coffee (for you)may be guzzled whilst he is in theatre. You have plenty to deal with but feel free to offload to your forum friend anytime.

I am sure Jamie's birthday will pass in a  blur whenever you acknowledge it - mine felt a bit like that this year. Thinking of you all.  Jules xx

Hi terribear

Sorry to hear of the loss of Jamie's stepdad.

Condolences to you and your family from all of us at Cancer Chat.

Best wishes at this sad time,

Jane

Hi Jules, 

Sorry it's been so long again, as you can probably imagine, there's been a lot going on, and still is. Grandads op went ok, but no improvement, we went back to see his surgeon yesterday after having his appointment brought forward. My grandad has got bladder cancer. Never rains but it pours! He's to go for a ct scan on Mon 30th and then back to see his surgeon after that. He has had a catheter put back in today, so at least he doesn't have the worry of getting wet now, because he is a fretter so it's really been bothering him. He's quite down which is to be expected and keeps going on about going bald with chemo (he's always had a fab head of hair and combs it several times a day lol) but I'm not sure if it'll get that far yet, we'll have to wait and see, but at the moment he's not eating or even drinking much, so that's not the greatest of signs. (Not because he's down, although it probably doesn't help, but been like this last couple of weeks. I'll keep you updated, but I might not be around much as its all appointments and work for a bit longer. 

Anyway, how are you doing? I hope you're ok. As it's coming up to Christmas I'm sure its not going to be an easy time for you, but I'm sure you and your family will all lean on each other and muddle through as best you can, enjoying memories of past celebrations with fondness. 

I'll speak to you soon, take care and keep smiling. 

Big hugs, 

Terri xx 

Hi Jane,

Thank you for the message, much appreciated.

Terri x 

Hi Terri

Bless you, you must be up to your eyes trying to deal with everything and just stay in touch as and when you want or need to. Your forum buddies understand. Hope your Grandad can be kept as comfortable as possible and know it cannot be easy for all concerned.  You have hardly had time to take a breath or even grieve the passing of Jamie's stepdad. 

Thanks for thinking of me and, as a family and with the support of the forum. I am chugging along day to day. See my GP at the beginning of next month (her request) to see how I am coping and am sure it is linked to the time of year. Yes, it will be emotional as we approach both our first Christmas without hubby and shortly after the anniversary of his passsing.  Having said that he loved this time of year and we will raise a glass (or two) in his memory and do our best to make new memories. Spending time with the grandkids (it's definitely exciting for them still) and also have the added news that a new grandchild is on the way (my son and his fiancee) is all helping the healing process.

Hope your sister is keeping well during her pregnancy (cannot remember when she is due) and also that your Mum is progressing well.  I know it is difficult but try a fit in a little wedge of 'me time' and am sending a big virtual hug until we chat again.  Take care Jules x

Hi terri

Just to let  you know I am thinking of you and the family and hope you managed Christmas and New Year the best you could for little (probably not so little now) Charlie. Take care Jules x

Hi Jules,

Happy New year, I'm sorry I've not been in touch, I hope you have managed ok yourself, ours has been a bit rubbish to be honest. My grandad passed away on the 22nd of December, I basically camped out at the hospital for nearly a week and a half with my aunties, as we were told he wouldn't make it through the first weekend (can't remember if that's the last message I sent you) but he battled on the stubborn old goat lol it wasn't very nice to watch but I wouldn't have not been there. Work have been fab with me and I got paid for all the time I was off which is just lovely of them. My grandads funeral was yesterday, it was a lovely service and he's finally at rest now, so we can all hopefully (fingers crossed) get back to some sort of normality. We've all rallied round and comforted each other and got through it as best we can, as you know how you do. 

Anyway, in other news, my mum has been signed off from Liverpool hospital now, she's also been to Birmingham and they told her she (almost definitely) won't have to have another operation as she looks to be healing great :) Jamie's mum is doing ok, still very down and not going out too much just yet, but she's plodding on. 

We had a quiet Christmas at home with just the three of us, Charlie had a fab time and really enjoyed himself and all the excitement was contagious as we got up on Christmas morning :) we've played snakes and ladders pretty much every day since and we have a little trophy for the winner, of which we have all been, so that's been nice :) 

My sister is 31 weeks gone now, so not long til the new niece arrives :) she's had a very sickly pregnancy this time bless her, she also suffers from travel sickness, so the journey to take them home today wasn't the most pleasant lol she'll be ok after a sleep :) 

Anyway, how are you and yours? Hope you all had a great Christmas and New year and the children made it special xx 

Speak soon. 

Take care and keep smiling :) 

Hugs xx

Terri 

Hi terribear and jules54 I came across your chat earlier and thought I would have a look well I went from 2012 right up til now and I just say yous two are strong woman. 

Terribear- I have to take my hat of to you you are such a strong woman and reading everything I have seen you got through hell with your mum and there's been ups and downs and with Jamie's stepdad etc if only there's was more woman like you that had such a good out look on life and always hoped for the best and my face changes expressions everything I read your posts when you said your mum was doing fab I smiled and it made me feel good inside and also felt really sad about other things that happened.  And jules54 I lost my hubby 3 years ago to terminal prostate cancer and I was devastated to be honest that's not even the word but I can relate and same goes to you as I said about terribear.  Many hugs go out to you both -Diane X

Hi Terri

My condolences on the loss of your grandad. Not a great way to see out the old year and move into 2016 but you gave him your love and attention and am sure you will carry wonderful memories along with  you in the future.

Am so pleased the workplace has been supportive - it helps so much.

Not long for your sister to go and bring some happy news into the family.  I am a granny in waiting as my son's new edition is due towards the end of May which will make our booked family week away in August pretty special time.

Christmas was good thanks. Spent Christmas Day with  son in law's Mum and family.  We left there around 7 and they came back to mine so spend two days with me which was busy as we also had son and fiance, her parents and a friend all popping in. Of course the grandchildren helped with the fun and games (and eating the goodies) and amongst the quiet reflection there was also the balance of laughter.

I chose to spend New Year alone and that was fine too.  Needed that quiet time and on 3rd Jan was the anniversary of hubby's passing a year ago.  Sometimes still feels like yesterday but for the most part I am now coping better and making forward plans for the home during this coming year.

Look after yourself and sending hugs. Always here to listen (or you can private message me if you prefer  as that facility is  now up and running again).  Jules x

So pleased to read that your Mum is doing so well that she has been discharged by one hospital and probably the other too soon. Great news.