Hi j.ireland Im sorry about your diagnosis. I think we all react differently there is no wrong or right, plus it puts things in perspective. I know I don't care or worry about the things I used to ( I am out the otherside ). I also remember when I was diagnosed ( different cancer ) not feeling anything it was almost like I wasn't bothered. Whatever the reason for how you feel it sounds like a good feeling so go with it. Sending hugs. Xx

Hi Bungle1 First off, thank you so much for replying to my message and for your kind words. It is good to know I am not the only one who felt like that. It is a very confusing time but I think it can also serve as a huge life lesson because I think the majority of people are not really living. I certainly wasn't. Sending you hugs too and thanks again for your reply. We are all in this together. xx

No thanks needed. I kind of think its a big thing for someone to make that initial post so if i think i can help as such I will always try. I agree most of us are just existing and not living. Like I said my cancer was different to yours so can't really give any advice on that. But I've had the you've got cancer words said to me so I get it. Happy to chat if you ever need to unload either in here or you can friend request and message privately. Xx

Oh thank you so much. How do I add you as a friend on here? I've only been on here for a day and posted that one message :) xx 

Hi j.ireland .  I had breast cancer in 2012/13 and had lumpectomy, chemo and radiotherapy.  Then tamoxifen.  When I was told I also felt calm and said to oncologist I will be alright.  I don't know if it our body's way of dealing with it.  I just wanted to start my treatment and get on with it.  I never cried until two years after treatment.  Like Bungle says there is no right or wrong way we all deal with it in our own way.  I now have secondary cancer which is incurable and in the beginning was very stressed about it.  Now I feel strangely calm and enjoy each day and the small things in life.  I would say go with however you feel.  Good luck with your treatment.

Lee x