Hi j.ireland .  I had breast cancer in 2012/13 and had lumpectomy, chemo and radiotherapy.  Then tamoxifen.  When I was told I also felt calm and said to oncologist I will be alright.  I don't know if it our body's way of dealing with it.  I just wanted to start my treatment and get on with it.  I never cried until two years after treatment.  Like Bungle says there is no right or wrong way we all deal with it in our own way.  I now have secondary cancer which is incurable and in the beginning was very stressed about it.  Now I feel strangely calm and enjoy each day and the small things in life.  I would say go with however you feel.  Good luck with your treatment.

Lee x

Thank you so much for reaching out to me and sharing your experience with me. It is odd to share your feelings like this with perfect strangers about your deepest feelings but somehow it works because i think on a base level we all know that we really are all in this together. I have the same attitude as you. I just realized how precious every moment is, that I never came to this world to stay and moving on after this is as natural and as beautiful as birth. I thought at first my calmness was just denial. But now I am sure it is just the maturity that comes with accepting our own mortality. If you ever need a friend to chat to please dont think twice about reaching out to me. Thanks again for taking the time to reply xx

Hello and welcome. 

Thank you, what a lovely supportive group of people you all are here! I guess we all join the club reluctantly but there is nothing like a crisis to put everything into perspective :) How are you? 

Thank you, what a lovely supportive group of people you all are here! I guess we all join the club reluctantly but there is nothing like a crisis to put everything into perspective :) How are you? 

Good. I’m still awaiting the results from a MRI scan I had two and a half weeks earlier. I will email today to find out for sure but I don’t think I will have bad news. 

Hi BCP I hope everything goes well with the MRI results. The worst part is the waiting 

 Definitely. I emailed earlier to ask what was going on. 

I have a rule, I have whatsapp for friends and family, phone and email for everything else. After 5pm my phone and email are turned off. I don't let anything interfere with a good nights sleep! Sitting there worried until midnight is something I have done many many times and I decided unless it is urgent it will wait for tomorrow. It doesnt even get space in my head until 9am the next morning. I just place my attention on something else, exercise, cleaning, reading or just relaxing with a good movie. Whatever it is they are going to read off their computer screen can wait until tomorrow. Treat yourself to a nice evening :) xx