I have been coping OK with the grim news. It is what it is. But now that the operation is approaching, I am having to read the blurb. All the grizzly details.
I need to know about it, to prepare and to deal with it, but it has added a big fat layer of anxiety, mainly about the loss of dignity surrounding post-op urine control.
I am trying to do the pelvic floor exercises, but there is no feedback loop—I can't measure any improvement. 
A friend suggested this site. Tips and advice welcomed!