Hi Kittybo, 

A warm welcome to Cancer Chat. It sounds like it's been a really difficult time for you and I wanted to let you know about the information we have on our website on merkel cell carcinoma. The worst seems to be behind you now after everything you've been through, the two operations and 25 sessions of radiotherapy. It's good that they are monitoring things though and you are having regular check ups. 

Don't pay attention to what these people are saying - none of this is your fault and they should not be making comments like this. So simply ignore them if you can. As many people on our forum will have experienced, some people can be a bit tactless and say things when they really don't know what they're talking about. Focus on the people - and they exist too - who mean well and who are there for you showing understanding and making you feel better.

Sometimes it's through going through scary health issues like this that we get to see who is having a positive impact on our lives and making us feel supported and loved and who we can simply ignore and you don't need to invest too much of your precious time on these negative people. 

I will now let others members of our community come and say hello and share their story with you. It helps to talk to others here who truly understand how you are feeling and how others may have made you feel. 

Best wishes, 

Lucie, Cancer Chat Moderator