I am so sorry to hear about your diagnosis. It must have come as a terrible shock to be told that your cancer had metastasised so soon after your initial diagnosis. It is no wonder that you feel so overwhelmed and alone. My mum battled breast cancer for 12 years before she was told that it had spread to her liver, lungs, brain and bone. Are you living on your own or just feeling alone? This is a common reaction to such a diagnosis. Do you have a family member or friend, who you can confide in? It really does help to be able to talk about how you feel openly and honestly. There are also several cancer support groups throughout the country, which you might find helpful. I attended Maggie's, when I was first diagnosed and found them very helpful. You can pop in for a chat and a cuppa any time, or make an appointment to see a counsellor, who can talk through how you feel and help to put things in perspective. Maggie's are dotted throughout the country. If you don't have one near you, there are a number of other charities, which go under different names, Your specialist nurse, GP or practice nurse should be able to help you find local support.
Are you still having any treatment? Have you looked at Macmillan's Secondary Breast Cancer Forum or Breast Cancer Now also has a 'Living with Secondary Breast Cancer'. You have to request to join this area, but it is helpful to be able to talk to others who are in a similar position.
Do please keep in touch and remember that we are always here for you.
I live with my two teenage children, lost my husband to Brain Cancer 4 years ago just feel like I’m living a different version of a reoccurring nightmare, tried to talk to family members but they just don’t seem to really understand, just feel sorry for me
I live with my two teenage children, lost my husband to Brain Cancer 4 years ago just feel like I’m living a different version of a reoccurring nightmare, tried to talk to family members but they just don’t seem to really understand, just feel sorry for me
I am so sorry to hear that you lost your husband to cancer. Sometimes life just doesn't seem fair. What ages are your children and are they supporting you in any way, also how are they coping with your diagnosis? Many of us find it hard to understand the reaction of friends and relatives to our diagnosis. Some people just don't know what to say, or they are afraid of saying the wrong things. Others just walk away or pass us by in the street. My experience mirrored that of many others, in that I did experience this reaction with some people who I considered to be friends, but I also got tremendous support from other sources, which I least expected.
You will find that the people who really listen to you will most likely be those who have been touched by cancer and appreciate how overwhelming a cancer diagnosis can be. I have had some tremendous support from some of these people in the past 16 years.
