Good morning Pansyvenus.  I have just read your post.  I am very sorry to hear about your husband's diagnosis.  How did the meeting with the oncologist go yesterday?  I have incurable cancer and my husband doesn't really say too much about it.  I think sometimes that it is harder for our loved ones to deal with than the person with cancer.  I am glad that you found this forum as you can say what you want on here and know that everyone will understand.  Sometimes just writing down your feelings can make it a bit better.  Cancer can be very lonely and scary.  Please let me know how you got on yesterday.  I am always here if you need to chat.  Sending you hugs.

Lee x

The meeting went as I thought it would, but my husband was very shocked as he was thinking that once we started treatment things would improve. We had a wonderful oncology nurse and the oncologist himself was very kind.

Our son came with us, and took copious notes and Peter will have a biopsy although they don’t think there will be any chance of having chemotherapy but the radiotherapy will hopefully start next week. The oncologist emphasised the fact that it will increase his quantity of life, but not necessarily his quality of life.

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We just have to meet each day as it comes