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MandyIrene
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  everyone and hope life stays under control. I was diagnosed a with Prostrate Cancer only a few months ago and after being advised it was perfectly manageable was then told by a surgeon it was an aggressive one, obviously I was very shocked and while building the idea  of living abroad , have now shelved things. My lovely Wife has been Mentally ill since 2015 and requires 24/7 care as she doesn’t know what to do. Eating  , washing and general support are down to me. I can’t get any benefits we are both well over 65. Obviously we receive DLA , State Pensions and two private work pensions. Unfortunately I don’t have any private pensions as my late Wife Mandy developed complications during pregnancy and left her terminally ill. I gave up my top job in London to come home to care for her 24/7 until her death aged just 29. So I’m not a happy Bunny right now. Having Hormonal Injections every three month which unfortunately cause female middle age issues, ie Hot Flushes .

so my goal now is support my sick Wife 24/7 and hope I can hang on long enough. We don’t receive any support to help our weary selves 

I’m still alive so if any of you can help me plot a path of stability please advise.

anyway I’m Terry age 76 

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    Hi Terry

    Have you spoken to citizens advice? I really feel you must be entitled to some more financial help and also some home help given your situation. You can also speak to your local council about council tax discount and your energy supplier etc. I hope you have a good friend or a family member that can make some calls for you and do some fact finding or your behaviour. 

    Look after yourself as best as you can. I appreciate how hard it must be for you.

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    Hi there again a few minutes while my Wife sleeps.

    I rang Citizens advise and after 25 minutes waiting. advised me to wait until my Tax Credit HMRC appeal is completed as if I receive another benefit might get challenged if I win the appeal. So back where I started , no money , worn out and just playing a waiting game.

    Anyway take care and I advise once Mandy’s Film shoot starts.

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    Hi there again a few minutes while my Wife sleeps.

    I rang Citizens advise and after 25 minutes waiting. advised me to wait until my Tax Credit HMRC appeal is completed as if I receive another benefit might get challenged if I win the appeal. So back where I started , no money , worn out and just playing a waiting game.

    Anyway take care and I advise once Mandy’s Film shoot starts.

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