Hello I'm Stacey

FIRSTLY apologies this is long and if you make it to the end THANK YOU  :-)

Hello ,I'm 38 with 2 children youngest being 10 and very much mummy girl, I found a lump on my right shoulder/neck kinda where your bra strap sits (for thos who wear a bra :-) 

No pain or discomfort I happened to itch my shoulder and found it that way so no idea how long it's been there I would say it feels little bruised or tender next day if I've been prodding it about but nothing major  ...

So I finally got into the docs (limited as work all week apart from Mon),doc had feel and wanted me to have ultra  scan at hosp .

Week later I had my scan (last weds) but I'm no wiser to what is happening but naturally I'm thinking the worse! And I mean my brain isn't letting me think other wise ,

So in the scan there was 3 staff, believe 1 was a student the lady doing the scan  asked me to lay down and all I heard was "ok so this is a lymph node " and with that we will then check them all ,so she checked around my neck,shoulders,throat, ears , im already thinking OMG what isit i tried to ask questions but was told have wait till end. 

Was then told I need to go next door with her colleague for another scan as its slight on the shoulder guess her machine was for soft tissue only ?

So after long 20min wait which felt soooo long I was so nervous feeling sick u name it already thinking worse again ! I went in and basically was asked "any sharp pains " replied no nothing I was asked this few times,  I was asked anymore lumps ? I said not that I'm aware off ...this point I'm getting upset as I'm like what isit what's happening?? Sadly they told me they can't tell me as they don't know and that I'll need a MRI I said why??? Surley you must know something I'm extremely upset this point and lady was lovely and comforted me but she just said we don't know its "complex" I have no idea what this means but its confirms to me its not a cyst or a fatty lump and this is where my mind takes over that it only leaves 1 other thing!!! 

Later on I had call from my doctor to confirm he will be referring me for MRI that can take upto 2weeks or longer evan though his gonna push it through the fastest way possible,  and he then just said that they found something they wasn't happy about and said that no matter how skilled or trained they are not evan he could tell from a ultra sound what it is( I feel this is just a cope out as surley they must know if they can tell cyst or fatty lump from a scan there and then) he also said which makes me feel like it's his way off saying its the big c but without saying it...he said that a cyst or fatty lump(don't remember medical term) don't need vessels to live on ?? Im sure that what he said (I was very upset ) and that mine has it like vessels or something attached?? And said that there is 2 procedures first MRI then biopsy to see if its B or C ,I just feel like they maybe do know but wants to be sure my mind won't shut off from thinking its C and has it spread is that why they want MRI instead just doing biopsy? Please cab anyone help with questions what else could it be then if fatty lump or cyst us ruled out because this vessel ?could it still be anything other then the dreaded one ? 

  • Hi stacey I'm actually at the hairdresser at the moment and desperately trying to hold it all together (I'm feeling particularly weepy today) I totally get the keeping busy it does help to give some relief from the constant worry.  I'm a baker and I'm working thus afternoon so hopefully that'll  take my mind off it. I'm finding the morning the worst for me its like it all comes crashing back when ai wake.  Thank you for being there it helps to know I'm not alone and that others understand my anxiety.  Hope you have a good day and I'm also here for you should you need to chat/vent. Hope we both get good results when the time comes Ive got everything crossed 

  • Hi Stacey

    I am ok thanks, have spent the morning with my elderly dad, pretending that everything is normal.  He doesnt know about all of the tests etc yet, I am hoping that it will turn out to be ok and he never needs to know!  We lost my sister to breast cancer 15 years ago and my mum to it 18 months ago, I am all he has got left, so desperately trying to protect him from the worry!

    I am getting a bit antsy now that I know that the phone could ring any time, I was pretty good over the weekend when I knew that there was no chance of hearing anything.  But just got to keep plodding on and hoping for the best!

    Fingers crossed that you hear something soon about a date for your mri!

    All the best

    Annie

  • Hi rocketdog 

    Hows was the hairdressers?

    I also work within a bakery and keeps me very busy but still have my moments of thoughts , 

    I also struggle with the morn it's like you awake thinking its a dream/nightmare but then soon remember it's sadly not .

    Do you live with partner or have children ? Company to keep your mind busy? 

    I finsd as soon as my daughter in bed or playing outside thats it for me my mind goes so negative I avoid social media as its full of depressing stuff.

    Hope your shift goes well :-) keep your chin up we got this xx

  • Hi Annie, 

    I've got everything crossed for you that it's gonna be just fine! It's the hardest bit having to wear that mask that hides it all, but like you said he might never need to know:-)

    Are you near that time then to what they said? Is this scan or biopsy ? Apologies if your told me before my memory isn't the best lol more so when I'm tired and stressed .

    I've still got no letter yet be week tomorrow so I guess it's still early, 

    Hope your evening going OK?? im currently rinsing birds of a feather the old series I just find the old programmes help me can't beat them:-) xx

  • Hi Stacey hairdressers was ok although I struggled to hold it all in whilst I was there.  Took me all my time not to burst into tears but hey my hair looks nice  I live with my husband (2nd) and our 2 dogs I have a grown up daughter and 2 grandchildren.  My husband is super supportive but refuses to look on the dark side and is "thinking positive" wish I had his optimism. I feel for him because he doesn't know what to say to make me feel better  The stress of waiting is driving me nuts and I can't wait till Monday! How long till your MRI and how are you feeling?  I pray that both you and me get good results and thank you so much for taking the time to listen.  I dont know what's worse the not knowing or the fear of finding out. Nancy

  • Hi Nancy ,

    Hope you don't mind me calling you that :-) 

    I'm soooo glad you have your hubby and 2 dogs, that makes me feel warm inside knowing your not alone xx

    Wish I could just hug everyone and tell them its going to be ok especially  the ones that are alone :-(

    It must be man thing but also being postive is a good thing his trying to keep the spirit up which is good .

    I've heard nothing yet so had my ultrasounds last weds and was then told I'll need MRI doc says his pushing it the fastest way possible so if I don't hear within 2 weeks to get in touch so I guess still got while yet :-(.... I JUST Want to KNOW :-(

    The stress is making me feel poo ! Headaches ,especially...then you think oh god isit symptoms..its just a circle of stress really ..

    I agree what is worse the waiting is definitely awful but then hearing them words ......I honestly can't say anyone will ever know what it's like untill it happens,  

    One things for sure this has made me deeply questions life choices (gone cold turkey quitting owing since last weds) started eating more better I think it's a massive kick up the butt isn't it , xxx

  • Not at all Stacey I'm not even sure where rocket dog came from :-) my hubby is lovely and I feel fir him because this is something he can't really help me with as I won't settle till I know what I'm dealing with. I love my dogs they give me such peace.  They've been very clingy lately I think they're picking up on my anxiety. This forum has really opened my eyes to the heartbreak and fear of cancer and ai too wish I could make everyone feel better.  I know what you mean about a kick up the butt if this is a false alarm (pray to God) I intend to make some BIG changes in lifestyle and outlook going forward.  It a shame we have to go through this to appreciate living.  Do you gave a partner or close family and friends around you?  I hope you do but if not I will see this through with you whatever may come for either of us.  We got this!

  • I have my 10 yr old daughter who loves with me and .y doggy,cat & rabbit they all keep me busy especially my cat his done a disappearing act since yest morn so I've been out on the hunt several times ....all ya need hey ! Ha ! 

    I do have partner but we don't live together he us about 40mins from me so I see him throughout the week but definitely miss not having that other adult to come home to every night and just cuddle if needs be BUT he does his best when he is with me hid bit like your hubby all postive and won't have anything said about it untill we know kinda puts it in back his mind ( or should I say definitely acts it well ) he says he doesn't know what to say and just wants keep things postive bless him and it does seem work when I'm with him ,would just be nice to have him here every night (I've become a bit clingy haha) ...

    Thank you for being so lovely im also here for you xxx

  • Hi Stacey

    I answered your private message, I hope that you get some news on your mri today

    xx