I have just been told I most likely have colorectal cancer. I am alone with no family or friends to help me. Both my parents died with the same cancer. I’m hoping to maybe get information and support. I don’t know where else to turn.
Hi June I’m sorry to hear you are having to deal with this alone. As newly diagnosed with the same thing as you I have found this forum really helpful. I’m fortunate to have a supportive husband, but I still find this group really informative and helpful and it’s reassuring in some way to have others are in the same situation. Please feel free to message me if it helps. Stay strong, stay away from google and take care of yourself.
Oh thank you for replying to me. I have now to make some decisions to make on my own. Because I’m so alone in this world I doubt anyone would miss me. Thats the honest truth. Anyone who cared for me is already dead. You are a really good human being for replying to my msg. I wish the very best for you. You are so fortunate to have a supportive husband to guide you towards those decisions. I’ve only got me. More and more I am thinking of letting this disease take its course. Am I wrong? I’m not happy being so alone so why prolong my unhappiness. Anyway thank you so much x
Hi June, sorry to hear your diagnosis, I have colorectal spread to liver so am on palliative care. I live alone and it's a lonely place to be with no one to talk to. Today I went to an emergency dentist only to be told my teeth are going to fall out because of the chemo. I've always looked after myself and this is devastating to hear, I can understand how your feeling because I'm having same thoughts, do I not have anymore treatment and let it run it's course.?It's going to be a hard decision to make, if I see you post I'll always try to reply as it's nice to speak to people who are going through same thing.
Hello Kitty, I think you’re so brave. You clearly have accepted what is happening to you and I can only hope are not in pain. I can’t really believe what is happening to me yet. I keep hoping it’s some kind of mistake. I’m in denial just now because last year at this time I was in good health. I get so distressed and feel sorry for myself sometimes. Then I realise there are people like you so accepting and I should feel like that. I wasn’t prepared for this and I should have been. I nursed both my parents to their deaths but I thought I would live forever. I too have taken care of myself in comparison to others and it feels so unfair. Today I noticed wrinkles on my body because of the weight loss and now it’s showing up on the outside that I’m ill. Can’t be in denial any longer. It’s late at night and I can’t sleep. I just wanted to thank you. x
You need never feel alone, now that you have found this forum. There is always someone here to chat to and ask for advice or information. Most of us either have/have had cancer or are caring for someone who has and we're a pretty supportive bunch of people, who totally understand what you're going through. I am so sorry to hear that you have lost both of your parents to this horrible disease. Was this long ago?
I have had 2 bouts of breast cancer within a year of one another. I had previously lost my Mum to secondary breast cancer and a number of relatives and friends to various cancers. I was terrified when I was first diagnosed, as I expected my path to be the same as Mum's. I was so wrong. Diagnosis, treatment and after care have all advanced tremendously since then and there was just no comparison between the experiences that we both had. Fortunately, it is now 14 years since my diagnosis and I still lead a busy and fulfilling life.
Do you have a Maggie's Centre near you? This is a place where you can pop in for a cuppa and a chat with others. There are also counsellors, psychologists and nurses there, who you can discuss any concerns with. They offer a number of other free services and classes, where, even the social aspect of these might help you to meet others.
If you are looking for any medical advice, the nurses on this site are always available Monday - Friday, from 9.00am - 5.00pm. Their telephone number is 0808 800 4040. You might find it helpful to chat with them before reaching any decisions.
Please keep in touch and remember that we are always here for you.
I have just seen your post, you are certainly not alone in this situation, I am in it too and have the same thoughts as you regarding treatment, I am on Immunotherapy at the moment but was told that there is only a 30% chance it will help, next scan due end of April. I don't know about you but my biggest fear is the end of my life, like you I am alone, I have known people die of cancer and receive help re medication and a bit of personal care but there has always been a family member there as well. I am not much help to you but I hope someone can put your mind at rest. Please feel you can post anytime, along the journey I have received help from this forum.x
