Hello Seani, 

You sound indeed like a lovely, empathic and compassionate forum and we warmly welcome you to our community. Well done for taking the brave step to come here, read the discussions and post your own story. The important thing is that you have found us now and we are here for you to offer support and share similar experiences.  I am glad that reading other stories here has brought you a little comfort and I wanted you to know that you are not alone and others will I hope come and say hello and share their own journeys with you. 

I hope you won't mind but I have changed the title of your thread just so that it can be spotted more easily by others and hopefully this will mean you will receive more responses from people who are or have been in a similar place. You mentioned that you are struggling with anxiety and depression - this is also familiar territory to so many of our members and if you wanted to seek help for this, I would suggest you give your GP a call as you shouldn't suffer alone and there is help available to help you feel a bit better. 

How has your wife been since her breast diagnosis if you don't mind me asking? I hope that she has been coping ok with the treatment and if you or your wife ever needed any advice from our cancer nurses, they have a free helpline you can ring on 0808 800 4040 - you can call them Monday to Friday from 9am to 5pm. 

Best wishes and I hope that you will enjoy using our friendly forum, 

Lucie, Cancer Chat Moderator

Hi Lucie and thank you for your kind words. 
I have no problem with you changing the title and appreciate it. 

When in the past I’ve heard from someone that their loved one has the cancer, I thought “that’s terrible” but it was words, just words, someone was in pain, mentally and physically, but it was just words coming from their mouth. 
Ever since the day we were told my wife had cancer I fully understand just how terrible life had become for someone telling me that their loved one was ill. 
Living with the cancer, is almost impossible to put into words. It’s been a rollercoaster of emotions. 
My wife had the chemo and then the operation. Losing her hair and nails etc etc, whilst I began to think am I losing my mind? 
She also had a week of radiotherapy and last week was the last dose of the second load of chemotherapy 

She had suffered from fatigue and back pain amongst other symptoms, , but despite all of this she has still managed to go to work for several hours a day. She feels it has helped, especially with “chemo brain” 

Again, Lucie, thank you for your words and your support. 
Take care ️

Hi Lucie and thank you for your kind words. 
I have no problem with you changing the title and appreciate it. 

When in the past I’ve heard from someone that their loved one has the cancer, I thought “that’s terrible” but it was words, just words, someone was in pain, mentally and physically, but it was just words coming from their mouth. 
Ever since the day we were told my wife had cancer I fully understand just how terrible life had become for someone telling me that their loved one was ill. 
Living with the cancer, is almost impossible to put into words. It’s been a rollercoaster of emotions. 
My wife had the chemo and then the operation. Losing her hair and nails etc etc, whilst I began to think am I losing my mind? 
She also had a week of radiotherapy and last week was the last dose of the second load of chemotherapy 

She had suffered from fatigue and back pain amongst other symptoms, , but despite all of this she has still managed to go to work for several hours a day. She feels it has helped, especially with “chemo brain” 

Again, Lucie, thank you for your words and your support. 
Take care ️