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Worrying about the wait for elderly mum

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My elderly mum has stage 3 grade 2 breast cancer ilc. It feel like we were pulling teeth to be told that. She was diagnosed in early October, and had to really fight to get her lumpectomy just after Christmas, they were scheduling it for mid Jan. We've been waiting to get an appointment with the nurse and surgeon, and called and are seeing them a month now after surgery. Mum feels, and so do I now, that they don't care about her because she's old, but she deserves a chance and she wants one. She's had a hard life, but she loves her life now. Is this really not treatable?why are they being like this. She's so lovely. I know they're busy, but I think it's because she's just an older woman who has had her life to them. She's only 76 though.

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    I know what you mean...no one seems to care. I am chasing my tail trying to get help for him. He is in a great deal of pain now as it has moved into his bones and round his body. It is heart breaking to see him like this but I am trying everything I can to get him the help he needs. The Dr's are so unsympathetic, they have prescribed him anti inflammatories for his pain but how is that going to work with bone cancer? the mind boggles. Like I said in my previous thread, Marie Curie can't give me a straight answer as to what stage he needs to be before they will admit him. I just can't keep spend each day going to see him not knowing if he's going to be alive, if he's slept, how much pain is he going to be in, as he been awake all night with insomnia and if so do I wake him or just sit until he wakes up. My life is just revolving around this whole situation. Then I try to get other things sorted for him but told "we need his permission to speak to you" when they already have so many times. I just want to scream! Thank you all for your replies, it really does help just speaking out. God bless you all x

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    I know what you mean...no one seems to care. I am chasing my tail trying to get help for him. He is in a great deal of pain now as it has moved into his bones and round his body. It is heart breaking to see him like this but I am trying everything I can to get him the help he needs. The Dr's are so unsympathetic, they have prescribed him anti inflammatories for his pain but how is that going to work with bone cancer? the mind boggles. Like I said in my previous thread, Marie Curie can't give me a straight answer as to what stage he needs to be before they will admit him. I just can't keep spend each day going to see him not knowing if he's going to be alive, if he's slept, how much pain is he going to be in, as he been awake all night with insomnia and if so do I wake him or just sit until he wakes up. My life is just revolving around this whole situation. Then I try to get other things sorted for him but told "we need his permission to speak to you" when they already have so many times. I just want to scream! Thank you all for your replies, it really does help just speaking out. God bless you all x

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