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Would some lie about cancer

Ralfy08
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Hello. I have a very strange post in the sense I'm doubting if someone would actually do this. 

My brother told my family he was diagnosed with prostate cancer 2years ago at the age of 31. At the time my beloved grandmother had sadly passed away and my brother wanted her house however in her will she requested the house be sold and certain amounts of money go to certain people. I was in charge of making sure her wishes were carried out and I ensured that happened. My brother made it very clear repeatedly the house should have been his and that it wasn't fair and that I was wrong ect. Then in the process of clearing the house before I got the estate agents involved my brother got diagnosed. My other sibling turned against me as she said my brother was terminally ill so should have the house to live in and then leave for his childrens. Although I was very sad at the thought of losing him and very sad for what he must be going through I continued. The house was sold and money spilt the way my grandmother requested. Heartbreakingly a few months after my dad was then diagnosed with lung cancer. He went through the chemo and radiotherapy and tried he absolute hardest to be here for his family however heartbreakingly he very recently lost his battle. In that time my brother still declared he had cancer and the time he had left seemed to shorten very quickly over a short space of time. He didn't want treatment but wouldn't explain why. No one was aloud to go to any doctors appointments with him and he never looked frail or sick. He has continued to abuse alcohol and drugs and has continued with work although has a lot of time off (works for himself). The time he said he had left has passed and when we bring it up he says he doesn't want to talk about it just make the most of the time he has left. 
The longer it has gone of for the less I actually believe him, but then again how could someone lie about that especially to my dad who was struggling and hurting with the horrendous cancer  and deverstated that his son wouldn't be here long and could possible die before him. 
I don't want to be blunt and ask him incase I am wrong but it's getting to me and I don't no what to do. 
 I should also mention my relationship with my siblings hasn't been the same since I wouldn't give my brother the house and I am in their eyes the bad person. obviously this is just the short of the horrible few years it has been but what do other people think and am i in the wrong for this 

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    Some people, including family members, do change when money or valuable assets are up for grabs. Seen it happen in my own family when my gran died. My uncle and aunt took all the valuable stuff, including things that were noted down in the will for others. They also tried to short change my mum with the house, but due to the legality of it all, they couldn't ultimately do it.

    As for your brother and playing devil's advocate here, i dunno. Only he knows. Cancer can take many forms, and not every looks "sick and frail". That's a common misconception many people have, and we too had before my wife became ill. During my wife's treatment, her and a lot of others she became friends with looked a picture of health from the outside. You never have guessed, barring the hair loss on some people. Hair loss is no indicator too because some chemo doesn't affect the hair, and other people have complete hair loss due to non cancer related things like alopecia or medication. Even if people do become frail looking, that can happen at the very end. Again, depends on the cancer. Steroids etc can make people put weight on, so weight loss is a bad indicator, even if things are bad internally.

    The only 2 things that can tell you whether he's lying or not is time or if he shows you some sort of correspondence. Not everyone likes taking people to an appointment. Some people prefer to be left alone, with their own thoughts, so again, not a good indication. I know i loathe people attending medical appointments with me, whereas my wife liked company and chat.

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    Hello ralfy08 i agree with ProfBaw money makes some people do things most of us find distasteful. I too have seen it all too often. As i do not know your brother it really is up to him to tell the truth.. As someone with prostate cancer, and i am just speaking about myself  if i had declined any treatment  and was drinking lots of alcohol i would want to be very close to the loo at all times. PS i would have carried out my grannie final wishes too.

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