Dad diagnosed with Oesophageal cancer

Hi all. My name isn’t actually Neloth but you can call me that. I’m 20.  

My dad (in his early 50s) was diagnosed with oesophageal cancer almost two weeks ago and today received news that it is stage three (kinda expected with oesophageal cancer). I’ve done lots of reading into it right from the initial test and I know it’s bad. Wondering who else is out there with similar news. I think hearing I'm not alone would be reassuring for me and maybe for you too. 

  • Hello Neloth, 

    I am so sorry to hear your dad has been diagnosed with oesophageal cancer and that it is stage 3. I thought I would share with you Cancer Research UK's reliable information on oesophageal cancer so that you get an idea as to what to expect. There is a section too on what stage 3 oesophageal cancer is

    You're definitely not alone and you've come to the right place to meet others who have had a similar diagnosis or who have looked after a loved one with oesophageal cancer. Do feel free to use the 'search forum' option in the search bar above to look for other 'oesophageal cancer' discussions. I had a little look for you and found for example  's thread whose auntie was diagnosed a few months ago with oesophageal cancer - feel free to respond to it if you wish. 

    If you would like to talk to one of our cancer nurses, you can do so on this free number 0808 800 4040, Monday - Friday between 9a.m - 5p.m - they will be happy to answer any questions you may have on oesophageal cancer. 

    I hope you find out more soon about your dad's treatment options and I hope it all goes well for him. 

    Best wishes, 

    Lucie, Cancer Chat Moderator 

  • Hi Neloth. 
    Just thought I’d reach out and say hello. 
    My dad was diagnosed with stage 1 tonsil cancer in spring, so I know how you’re feeling. It’s been a very long few months but he finished radiotherapy a week ago and is doing extremely well. 
    Hang in there. I know how difficult it can be seeing your Dad go through so much so be kind to yourself in the meantime. Here if you want to chat x

  • I'm 11 month from having my esophagus tumour removed. Yes it has been a struggle but I'm slowly getting there. If you want to talk I'm here. I find it helps speaking to others who have been there. Sending love and hugs.

  • Hi Neloth,

     Fifties is relatively young for Oesophageal cancer. I was 55 when I was diagnosed with it at Stage 4, I’m now 65. 

    It’s scary news to come to terms with but, whenever you look at the published stats, remember they cover all ages of patients and that many cancer patients have other conditions as well. 

    Another positive is that survival and recovery rates are improving year on yea - a lot of the data in the public domain is well out of date. 

    I hope your Dad’s treatment goes well.

    Good luck

    Dave

  • Was/is your cancer considered advanced? Must have been tough for you, congratulations for keeping on. My dad had a laparoscopy and was found to have fluid in his abdomen suspected of malignant ascites so is having a biopsy based off of sample taken. I was wondering if you knew anything about this condition. From what I’ve read it looks bad should I be preparing for the worst soon? I was hoping to have a couple more years at least but now I feel I need to accept that it’s a few months if it comes back as confirmed malignant ascites.

  • Hi Neloth,

    Mine was diagnosed at stage 4 with secondaries detected on my liver, kidneys and lungs as well as in several lymph nodes. I was so lucky to respond unusually well to the chemo and made an almost miraculous recovery.

    I’m afraid I know little about ascites except I know that it isn’t always caused by cancer as I once had one which was painful but non-cancerous.

    Good luck

    Dave