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want to share the story of Cancer went over with my family.

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My name is Haris from Pakistan and my elder sister had a breast cancer for almost 14 years.In between i was in the UK and keep hearing from family that they are going to cancer hospital for treatment which was a beggining for our family and we ve no Idea of its hardness and. for almost 13 years and few months it was quite fine going to hospital in a required gap some times twice in 6 months and then once a month and then twice a month or so as the desease was its first or second stage but then after it gones in stage 3 we had to do more effort going almost 3 hours drive and then 3 hours return.we saw many or numbers of patients which where increasing day by day and it looked like whole city or most of ppl in the country is going through with this no mercy desease.

my sister went through a very painful months and days at the About 4 months before her death it was told a 4rth stage which was a very painfull time for whole family and more painful was to think that she had 4 girls and the youngest was only 13 who spent her whole life with watching her mom in the pain and effort to fight with this desease.

she was died in april 12 2013.

i want to share and listen other ppl going through this.

Regards,

Haris.

  • Hi Haris,

    I really feel for you and your family having to go through this, it is hard to see your sister suffer like this and especially at times when you were so far away from her, you must have felt so helpless.

    My sister was diagnosed with cancer, she was 41 at that time with a 4 year old son.  He also grew up watching his mum having treatment and feeling ill.  She was older than me by 2 years and always tried to protect me, I was her little sister regardless of how old I was.  She sadly died after 3 years of battle, my nephew was then 7 years old.  She lived 6000 miles away from me at the time which was hard as I felt so helpless, but I did manage to get to see her a few times in that time and I was there when she passed away.

    You never get over losing your sister, but you do find a way to cope with it.  I spent a few years very bitter and angry, but I now like to think of it that I was lucky to have someone that strong and caring as my sister for 41 years, some people can spend a lifetime with a sibling and never have that bond.

    I was blessed to have her.

    My nephew coped, he has a fantastic dad that is devoted to him and 13 years later, he has grown into a confident and caring young man.

    Take care and try to remember the good times with your sister, it will help you cope.  I am here if you need a chat.

    Marie

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    that is so wonderful to have you here and also felt very light and cool to hear your loving words in the favour of my died sister and apriciating me about me i actuly always been looking to ppl who talk and share to each other sadness happineses so our half tens gone away and you are the same loving and kind woman its honour to have you and its realy sad to hear about your sister how you go with that and she was your loving sister also your nephew now he is grown but all he saw in his kids life may God rewards him for that and yes i would love to keep in contact with you i also am here for you all time when you want to talk and spend time with me here chating when we are here online or you may leave msg here which is a good platform to be n touch.

    I would like to to tell me more about yourself your life about your marital life if you are marriede if you ve kids and how its going and what country if you dont mind to share it to me and you may ask all about me what you want 

    Regards 

    Haris

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    hi marie its really apriciating to hear from you and i felt light i am so sorry to hear about your beloved sister who where in pain and you where also in pain an als also about your nephew who cops to see his mom going thourgh bad deease may God rewards him for bearing his mom,s pain and stress..i am sorry to did a mistake that my sister was died in april 2023 not in 13 .and yes i am here also for you and would like to be in touch with you and we may share our words and things to each other so ppl feel lightly after sharing their stress or happinesses .i would love to know more about you how your life going now family marital life if you are marrierde and other things in what country you from and more if you want to tell or share with me.

    Regards,

    Haris

  • in reply to bhattimrp

    Hi Haris


    Oh I am so sorry that you only lost your sister in April of this year, it must still feel so raw for you. It takes a long time, but I promise you it does get easier with time. You can remember the good times you had with your sister, before the illness took over. Are you close to your niece that is 13 years old? That is such a hard age to lose your mum! I am sure she will.need someone to talk to about it. Once they knew that my sister was going to die, my brother-in-law and nephew had grief counselling, they continued that for a couple of years afterwards, it helped them both a lot.

    I live in the Uk too, I have sent you a friend request, if you accept that, we can private message each other, which is better than putting too many private details on a public forum.
    Best wishes
    Marie

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    aw is this a puclic forum actly i am new i dont knw how to exectly in private i thougt we are talking in private but i ve already accepted your request plz check it an send me a private msg to i tell you more detail and reply of your this msg thanx ....reply me soon if you online i am waiting 

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