Hi Susie,

So sorry to hear about your mum, bereavement is one of the hardest things we face in life. Your post resonated with me as when my father died 21 years ago, my husband was just awful. No comfort, cold and even mentioned divorce the day after the funeral after I'd stayed with my mum for the night. How is your husband generally? Mine was generally a cold person anyway but turned it up a notch whenever I was upset or vulnerable. If this is how your husband is generally, he won't change, and you have some choices to make. If it's out of character, like Jolamine says then he just may not understand and maybe you can work through it. My marriage ended but dragged on far too long before it did. I deserved better and it's only once you've taken your life back you wonder why you stayed so long. I hope things work out for you, lovely. Take care of yourself xx

Hi Susie,

So sorry to hear about your mum, bereavement is one of the hardest things we face in life. Your post resonated with me as when my father died 21 years ago, my husband was just awful. No comfort, cold and even mentioned divorce the day after the funeral after I'd stayed with my mum for the night. How is your husband generally? Mine was generally a cold person anyway but turned it up a notch whenever I was upset or vulnerable. If this is how your husband is generally, he won't change, and you have some choices to make. If it's out of character, like Jolamine says then he just may not understand and maybe you can work through it. My marriage ended but dragged on far too long before it did. I deserved better and it's only once you've taken your life back you wonder why you stayed so long. I hope things work out for you, lovely. Take care of yourself xx