Hi JJ321,

I expect that you were asking Maite this question. However, I had another scare in the other breast, when I discovered a larger lump there, 6 months after my lumpectomy. In all 3 instances, my consultant was pretty sure that it was cancer from my first visit. However, fortunately the lump in the other breast proved to be benign - they cannot be  certain until they get the biopsy results. 

When he decided to carry out a mastectomy on my original breast, we decided that we might be wiser to have a double mastectomy, as he thought that the lump in my other breast could be pre-cancerous.

You are probably best to go with what they are saying. That way, it will be an added bonus if it turns out to be clear.

Have you got your results yet?

Kind regards,

Jolamine xx

Wow, sorry to hear you went through all of that. How do you feel nowadays about it all?

They told me to call Tuesday afternoon after their meetings.

I just feel really confused by it all. I went and did the rounds of mammogram and ultrasound, then markers, they only told me it looks suspicious, and the consultant will be able to tell me more. When I got to the consultant he just said that I had a rough ride, and I asked if it's cancer, and he was very blazae about it and said it looks that way. Then another lady came in, and I went with her to a different room, and when I asked her if she thinks it is, and if there is any chance it's not, she just bought up the mammogram grading being a 4. No signs of anything in armpit. 

So I feel like I haven't had anyone sit with me and discuss what this all means. Is this normal? Do they go more into it once they've got my results back.

it was all such a whirlwind, that maybe I missed parts of what they said.

Jj 

my appointment was much like that  had the mammogram then went in to another room consultant found the lump I could not feel a lump at all only felt a heaviness never felt unwell went as I was paranoid over this heaviness . 
she said we will do a ultrasound then they were saying it's small it's tiny I was like what do you mean scared .

after the ultrasound I asked straight out are you saying I have breast cancer the consultant replied it's suspicious and we will no for sure next week , I walked out numb thought this is crazy I'm well they are wrong all that week I thought there is no way this is BC they are wrong . 
Me and my hubby drove down that day but deep down I knew what they were going to say they confirmed it .

but you may be not like me until your results how can they be sure x 

HI JJ321,

I am so sorry that you still feel all at sea. While they can see the lump on mammogram and ultrasound, they can not be certain until they get the result of your biopsy back. Most consultants are very open with you about what they suspect, as they can see the shape of a lump and can feel if it is fixed. They deal with so many cancer cases, that they could probably smell it from 20 paces, but they still need the biopsy to be able to confirm that it is cancer.

The attitude that you've met with, tends to be pretty par for the course. You should be told a lot more on Tuesday, once your results are back. You might find it a good idea to write down a list of any questions that you have and have this with you when you talk to the consultant. I did this for every appointment as it is all too easy to forget something important in the heat of the moment. Do you have anyone you could turn to for help in drawing this up, as two heads are often better than one. It is not unusual to forget a lot of what is said at a consultation - most people forget about 80% of a conversation before they reach the hospital gates. This is why it can be helpful to bring someone with you to your appointments. I used to bring my hubby with me and, as I asked my questions, he wroote down the answers.

Sometimes they do further scans to clarify your condition. I had to have CT scans too, but my type of cancer is rare and doesn't always show up on mammogram or ultrasound.

Please try not to worry. I panicked for fear of not seeing my children grow up. However, I have been fortunate enough to see them leave school, go to university, graduate, find gainful employment, get married and I now have two wonderful granddaughters.

I still feel tired and all of my joints are stiff, as a result of my hormone therapy. I had to have both knees replaced and 7 operations to my eyes, but I am doing well thanks. I can still manage to lead a busy and fulfilling life.

Regardless of the outcome, you will feel better once you know exactly what you are dealing with and have plans in place to move forward.

Kind regards,

Jolamine xx

Thank you Jolamine for being so reassuring. Hearing your stories is making me feel less alone in this. Xx

It's just shocking. I was so convinced it was a cyst as the lump feels big, and I felt like I would've noticed it before. It's smooth and grape shape like a cyst. So I too was shocked like you. Now I just feel so overwhelmed with what's to come, with surgery which one will it be, and the treatment, am I going to be able to walk my daughter to school as soon as I come out of hospital. Just so many questions flying through my head. 
how do I tell my daughter about this. It just feels like a nightmare.

but it's nice to chat to people who have been there and coming out the other side. So thank you to you and  everyone for taking the time to chat.xx

Hi JJ321,

Rest assured that you are never alone, now that you've found this site.

Jolamine xx