Can't sleep have mastectomy opp today xx

I just can't sleep, I'm feeling positive about the outcome of having the surgery,I'm very worried about when I get home to my 5 beautiful children,I have very little support, and so worried about my recovery and not being able to do what mum's do, which is everything! I'm hoping my older children will understand and start helping out a little more!! It's the unknown of what is ahead, I have no idea, hope everyone is as well as they can be, Lindsay xx

  • Linda 

    best wishes for today , I can't comment on mastectomy I had a lumpectomy first then 2 nd op was full node clearance they took 26 nodes this required a drain which was managed well I used to still go out hide it under my dress lol .

    For me and I thibk it will be same for you after the lump was taken I felt relieved and at more peace .

    good luck today I will be thinking of you and sending positive vibes 

    love Lara x 

  • Hi Lindz44

    I'm sending love and hope all goes ok and your recover quickly!

    ive had a lumpectomy 2 weeks ago and am fine although I know your op will be different, I know you'll do great and keep in mind all of this is to make you better!

    Sending love xxxx

  • Hi Lindsay,

    I hope today's surgery went well and that you're not in too much pain.

    I'm having a mastectomy tomorrow. I probably won't sleep much tonight either.

    Whilst I'd remained focused, organising  things preping the house for my return from hospital, sorting things for school etc, today was a hard day. I'm scared.  Scared of surgery although it is a necessity of course, and like you I am worried about my recovery and the impact on my 6 year old. 

    I've read some reassuring posts on here so fingers crossed.

    i wish you a speedy recovery with minimal impact on your family.

    take care.

    xxx

     

     

     

  • Hi Bluebell

    I had never had any sort of surgery before so was very scared, however your asleep in seconds and next thing you know your awake and it's all over! They'll look after you.
    Remember it's all to get you better and you will get there soon.

    Sending you love and this time tomorrow it'll be done and dusted ️xxx

  • Dear Linda,

    I do hope your surgery has gone well and you are in recovery now and feeling some relief at least.

    I don't know a lot about this at first hand but I feel that if you discuss your situation with your nurses/oncologist? they will be able to help with support. By support, I assume you mean all the practical things. Your children will be only too eager to help Mum as much as they possibly can. My gut reaction is, hang the hoovering, hang the other chores, as long as your lovely family can sort out your meals and theirs and are there with plenty of (gentle) hugs, you will all be fine. I totally relate to the fear of the unknown. This is one of my biggest issues with getting ill/having to have surgery. I imagine most people would say exactly the same. Rest as much as you are told to, and day by day you will become stronger and better able to gradually get back to your normal life. Don't rush your recovery and take things day by day. I feel sure your children will go along with this as if it were second nature to them. Please try not to fret too much although I know that's easier said than done.

    Look after yourself x

  • Hi Lindsay

    I had a mastectomy just over a year ago and actually it was OK.  Not too painful at all. Just remember no heavy lifting , and do the exercises they give you once you ve had your drains out and follow up appointment. The worst for me was no driving , but slow gentle walks daily are perfect. Wishing you a speedy recovery xx

  • Thank you very much for your note Deedot. 
    xxx

  • Hi Lindsay,

    Hope you're doing ok after your operation. I 'went under' at around 9am and woke up at about 3pm (on the same day, of course :happy:. I was visited by the surgeon later that day, who told me that he had got it all out - I was a stage IIa, N0, M0, which apparently means that there was nothing in the nodes (N0) and no metastases (M0). Quite a lot of my colon was removed, though, so I have to watch the portion sizes, now!

    I was out of hospital after a 4 nights stay in Oct. 2021 and convalesced at home for two weeks. Watched every single episode of Wallender again, as well as the Sherlock Holmes series with Jereny Brett - sad, I know :happy:! Then I went back to work. Started chemo as a precaution in Dec. 2021 and finished the course in May 2022. 

    I try to stay positive, as there is no point in being anything else! There are regular scans and blood tests, so that they can keep an eye on you. I wouldn't want it any other way, even though it can make you nervous going for the first few, you get used to it. I view myself as a 'cancer survivor', now.

    Two good bits of best advice I have had since I started on this so called 'jourmey'. 'Don't use the internet', to  search for info about the cancer. The tendency to focus only on the bad stuff is not a good idea, so avoid it altogether. And 'Be Kind To Yourself'.  If possible :happy:

    Best wishes,

    Davex 

     

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    Hi Bluebell,

    I hope that all went well with your surgery yesterday and that you are coping now.

    Please keep in touch and let us know how you are getting on. We are always here for you.

    Kind regards,

    Jolamine xx

     

  • Sending love right back at you xx