Hi I'm knew to the forum,I lost my 19yr old son to a rare form of bowel cancer 12 months ago,from diagnosis to losing him was just 4 weeks,life has just been so so hard ever since,this time of year is now just full of sadness.
Didn't want to pass and not respond. I cannot imagine how hard it must be for you and your family. All I can do is think how my parents and siblings were when we lost our brother many years ago. The pain was almost physical, in time it became less raw but never left any of us. However, we always spoke/speak of him, eventually smiled more than we cried (though sometimes you're caught off guard by tears). It's because you love them + that never changes, even by death. Wish I had a magic solution, we're all different - talking about him helped us, just normal stuff, things he'd have liked, also we also acknowledged how unfair it was, how we hated what's happened. I hope, in time, you can all smile and remember he is, was and always will be part of your life. Xx
Didn't want to pass and not respond. I cannot imagine how hard it must be for you and your family. All I can do is think how my parents and siblings were when we lost our brother many years ago. The pain was almost physical, in time it became less raw but never left any of us. However, we always spoke/speak of him, eventually smiled more than we cried (though sometimes you're caught off guard by tears). It's because you love them + that never changes, even by death. Wish I had a magic solution, we're all different - talking about him helped us, just normal stuff, things he'd have liked, also we also acknowledged how unfair it was, how we hated what's happened. I hope, in time, you can all smile and remember he is, was and always will be part of your life. Xx
