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First diagnosis and it's already spread to my spine

HardyHarvey
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Hiya

I went to a breast clinic yesterday and received the news I was dreading. I have a tumor under my armpit and it has spread to my spine. 

My diagnosis has all been back to front as I wasn't especially worried about cancer. Had a bad back with got worse. I ended up with a private MRI scan as advised by a physio that said I needed to be seen urgently to rule out metastatic disease. My GP referred me vis a phone call but then I went back to actually see my GP who referred me on the breast clinic.

They diagnosed the tumor then also looked at the MRI report and said it has spread. I'm going in tomorrow to get my biopsy results and more scans. But I am fearing the worst and think it's spread everywhere.

I'm 44 with a beautiful 4 year old girl. I feel I am living in a nightmare. Howverever it's half term so we are off to the zoo today.

I have already found this forum extremely comforting and the stories of people living with cancer. I just hope I have some more time with my daughter and wonderful partner.

  • Offline in reply to HardyHarvey

    Hi been reading your strings and thought id reply, 

    Im male diagnosed feb 2016, prostate cancer gone to lymph node's pelvis spine ribs and a lung, had any treatment offered still going well and looking after my wife she has alzimers and parkinsons plus other problems, we manage 0k odd problems but we manage. 

    I've been thinking about a good friend [@mare]‍  she a good lass at talking to other ladies and explaining things. 

    Billy 

  • Offline in reply to Billygoatt

    Hi Billy, hi HardyHarvey,

    Thanks for tagging me in this Billy. Haha I'm a good lass yes :D  

    HardyHarvey take it slow and steady. 

    People really are living longer with cancer nowadays.

    I was 44 when I was diagnosed with invasive ductal Carcenoma throughout both my lungs and liver. At that time I didn't expect to reach 50 or see my children grow up.

    Ten years! No! I wanted the full forty! It was like being at a birthday party and being offered crumbs of cake instead of a full slice. I did lots of research in how to best stay as healthy as I could to support my medical treatment, and that gave me the Hope and Focus I needed to keep going. As did my urgent need to be with my children!

    One day at a time. Each morning I wake up and say to myself "its not got me yet, and its not going to get me today" and then I just get on with living today, and planning tomorrow cos it's not going to get me then either ;)

    I'm now nearly 56, nearly 12 years living with my cancer. I saw my children through school and uni and now have the blessings of grandchildren to exhaust me. And I'm still hoping to get that full cake slice!

    I have learnt a lot of tricks to help me mentally, and am always willing to share them.

    There are many fabulous people on here who will chat if you need to let off steam. I check in most days too so count me in too.

    Thinking of you and wishing you all the best.

    Mary

    Xxxx

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