Thank you for taking time to reply to me. 

I just can't understand how he can be so cruel. I seem to only get this reaction from him if I am upset, he cannot deal with any other emotion from me apart from me being happy. Which in this situation I cannot be.

Feeling so low today, he wont even be sorry for what he said and I guess it wouldn't even matter as I know he wouldn't even mean it.

Thanks again x 

I think you already know yourself what you need to do but I'm going to say it anyway ,DUMP HIM ,seriously he is the lowest form of human selfish and unsympathetic lacking in any form of empathy ,you would be better off on your own caring for your lovely mum ,I can guarantee after he has been dumped he will eventually start to realise what a piece of trash he is ,sorry but people like him are 2 a penny ,your mum is much more worthy of your love and time ,let him know his behaviour stops today or he is out ,in the mean time I send my best thoughts and good wishes to you and your mum x  ps no one said it will be easy but most times it turns out for the best xxx

I had the same when my dad was diagnosed my partner of 30 years wasent interested I basically lived at my dad's for 4 weeks to care for him he never rang messaged came round needless to say we are not together anymore you need support it's a awful time thinking of you .

Thank you for your reply.

A terrible morning with him. I tried to tell him how upset he made me last night and once again he has been so nasty. He said me crying over my mum will make my mum feel worse. He just won't let me talk about it. Because I started crying again he said he wished he was working today and can't wait until his at work tomorrow : (

It's so lonely...I just don't know how he can be so cold. I said to him this morning he clearly doesn't love me if he can make me feel like this when I need him. He just walks away, he refuses to talk. He just doesn't want to hear about my mum. I could never do this to him. It's just cruel x

From the way he is reacting there is more to this than just your mum ,if he loved you as you say he wouldn't treat you like this ,he's up to something ,if I were you I wouldn't waste another minute of your time on this big baby ,spend all your time and effort on your mum ,I'm not sure but maybe she's sensed his attitude before and its making her sad ,if he doesn't love you he doesn't love your mum ,you can not afford to waste a second trying to win over this bully he will not change ,the only chance you have of him coming to his senses is if you tell him to go because you will be spending your time nursing your mum back to health and strength so he either supports you or he can rot ,I wouldn't waste any tears on him save them for your mum she deserves you he doesn't ,keep us up to date things can only get better if you stand by your mum x

That's exactly what I think, I feel there is possibly someone else as I cant understand what other reason there would be for treating me so badly, especially when I need him the most. He definitely doesn't love me as much as he claims he does x

I agree ,either way he's a loser no heart and no soul let him go you will wake up one day and be thankful you did ,he's got no respect for your sick mum or for you you both deserve better ,it might seem a bit scary but it will only last for a short while and then you'll feel stronger x

I am so sorry for you. My girlfriend has been diagnosed with bilary duct cancer.  I am scared but as her partner you have to man up - literally. You haven't got time to put up with his nonsense.  He needs to listen help and put your needs above his own. Your Mum is the important one and when you are not looking after her you need to look after yourself. You only have one Mum but you can certainly get another boyfriend...