Hi SKelly!

Your posts just mirror what I am going through at this present time. My husband just found out his bowel cancer had come back after being clear for 5 months after a successful operation back in January. We got the word on 21st June (which was our anniversary of 36 years what a present eh??). Since then I have been on `auto pilot` and can't function or focus on anything. Everyday tasks are an effort and I find it hard to even step outside our front door for fear of running into a neighbour or someone we know and asking how my husband is. He sees his oncologist on Thursday this week to hopefully work out a management plan because his surgeon said another operation is not an option at this time. Whether she meant not ever and maybe at a later date I don't know. The cancer is back in his stomach lining and pelvis but she said it is very slow growing but I am really scared that the oncologist will say different when we see him on Thursday. Its getting me to the stage I don't want to go to the appointment but I know I need to pull on my `big girl pants` and do it. I don't think specialists would contradict one another though and say differnt to what the other said- well I'd like to think that. Take Care.

Vicky

Good morning and I just want to thank you for your reply. My dad had bowel cancer and had a successful surgery  but unfortunately it came back again too...hes still doing well and getting another round of chemotherapy but like your husband an operation was not offered this time. We were told when you get older the cancer slows down growing too.Please let me know how you get on at the appointment...I will say a prayer for you both x

Good morning and I just want to thank you for your reply. My dad had bowel cancer and had a successful surgery  but unfortunately it came back again too...hes still doing well and getting another round of chemotherapy but like your husband an operation was not offered this time. We were told when you get older the cancer slows down growing too.Please let me know how you get on at the appointment...I will say a prayer for you both x

Thank you so much! I just feel sick to the pit of my stomach not knowing what expect. I'm trying not to play the 'poor me' card because it's not aboute it's about my husband and I just feel I'm failing to support him.

I can imagine its bloody tuff on you both. All you can do at the minute is be there for him and support him..my mam had a good few teary days over my dad but shes getting there...best of luck tomorrow x

Thanks again Skelly I know I'm gonna need it. Just hope this time tomorrow I will have settled down a bit when we will know whats to happen good or bad. Hoping for good though and they can fix it again.

Vicky x